BatteredByLove Posted June 29, 2006 Posted June 29, 2006 Okay, just a warning, this post can be extremely long. , grab a coffee. Anyway, my gf and I broke up about 3 months ago, and after we broke up, we kept in contact, and still flirted... a lot. I'm still in HS, being a SR this year, and I know that I love this girl with all my heart, I would do anything for her. But anyway, we flirted a lot, and once summer hits, we still flirted a lot more, and one day she said that I was the perfect guy for her, that I would do anything, just that we fight a lot. Well, we talked a bit about that, and the next day, she said she went to this party, and said that she flirted with several other guys, hence, she was trying to make me jealous, I don't know why, but she did, and, then we got off the phone, and I emailed her, saying that I hated her for being so stubborn, cause at that point in time, I knew that she still had feelings for me, strong ones, our relationship was a year and 3 months, I know for some that it's short, but during that time we learned a lot about one another. Anyway, once she read that email, she got pissed obviously and told me to not call her anymore, and I was like you know, don't pick up the phone, and she's like not to call, this went bakc and forth for a few minutes and I just pratically blew it, I told her that I can't control my feelings and that I would call her once in a while because I will miss her, and that I told her NOT to pick up the phone, NOT to answer my ims, NOT to read my emails, etc, I guess I was being brutally blunt on both of us really, and after that we didnt speak. I of course called her like 4-5 times a day for the next week, then I started the NC rule, it worked well for a month, but then I decided to go visit her... I know dumbass right? Yea, I did, and the look on her face wasn't nice either, she had her hands on her hips, staring at me looking pissed, and just went back into her house. I do write letters, but I dont send it, and I know that she's single right now, and she's not flirting with anyone for that matter. She's one of them girl that thikns a guy is cute for 2-3 weeks then forget about him and just continue on, and so far, heh, I like that, that way I wont have to even think about her being with someone, the thought of that would kill me. She posted a new blog on her myspace account and it talks about her "blushing" around two guys, I don't know who they are, but she's not keeping in much contact with them, one's off like 1000 miles away, the other, I don't know much. Now, I'm starting the NC rule again, school wont's tart for about 2 more months, god, I cant even dread the possibilities once school starts, so many questions, will we be back? will she date someone? will we be friends? But as for right now, any feedback is a blessing to my broken heart. Thanks guys.
KatieOWNS Posted June 29, 2006 Posted June 29, 2006 I just wanted to type in here because I wanna be cool.....LOL..Anyways like we've talked about it before...Give her time I guess; let her come to you billy...Your name's billy right??....or was it Suzy Q.....or..or.....GAYNESSSSS
Nedved28 Posted June 29, 2006 Posted June 29, 2006 Your at the beginning of a difficult road my friend!! I to are in the same position as you!! But one which you WILL recover from. I also had way to much contact with my ex for 6 months after we broke up and now only the last ten days or so i've started a complete NC and it ain't easy but as anybody that use's LS regular will tell you its gotta be done. I know whats going through your head thinking about other guys and her flirting and having fun with other guys!! Those thoughts kill me also!! Even the thoughts of going back to School and hearing about her dating somebody else must seem very unpleasant for you!!! But the only way your gonna flush her out of your system is NC!! You've 2 months and you can achieve a lot in 2 months but there can be no more contact!! I know its hard!!! believe me i know!! But its the only way to go!! By the sounds of it a lot of things have been said and a lot of words exchanged between the 2 of you so maybe your better off just cooling off for a bit and try and enjoy your summer the best you can!! I know its hard but she seems to have made up her mind for now so ya gotta deal with that man!! Who knows when you see her in 2 months she might have a change of heart!! You could be back on speaking terms and then see how things develope...but again things might not have changed.... and there might be no way back....but at least the 2 months of NC and buliding yourself back up again you'l hopefully be well prepared for anything you have to face then!! Your gonna have to go through a little bit of pain....thats normal!! allow yourself time for that!! Once you(we) get over that pain barrier you'l be back to your old self!! you'l be okay!! keep the head up!!!
Author BatteredByLove Posted June 29, 2006 Author Posted June 29, 2006 Hey Nedved28, yeah, a lot of things have been said between us, we were both heated, and crazy, and during the first time I tried NC, everything was going okay, it gets easier my friend, especially after the first week or two, you wont' thikn about her much, but this girl sent me back a giftcard I gave her, in an envelope, and from the "don't say anything to me, dont pick up the phone, don't call me back" stuff, it was just a blank envelope with the giftcard, heh, yea, she's really pissed. Yeah, we're both in some serious NC stuff, and it HURTS, you know it hurts I know it hurts heh , we're just two heartbroken ppl out of the other hundreds in LS, and yeah, I'm just hoping for the best, so far, I see some people that tried NC and worked, others, not so well, but hey, I only tried it for one month , that's like nothing to people hehhee, let's go down this road together my friend, our heads up high, and although all my friends tell me to just give up, a guy gotta have faith right? .
Nedved28 Posted June 29, 2006 Posted June 29, 2006 Of course you gotta have faith my friend!!! your totally right!! Thats what life is all about!! And yeah we're in this together!! You bet we are!! We'le take whatever comes at us!!! yeah NC is hard!! But i'm coping well with it now!! I guess you have your good days and you have your bad days but i hope it will get better in time for both of us!! I myself waited to long in going into NC!! I wanted NC when we broke up but she wanted to stay in touch and me not thinking straight agreed to it!! It was a mistake!! a big mistake!!! But i've saw the light now and on Monday i'l be 2 weeks into my NC!! she's in new York(d'ont even wanna think about what she's getting up to there ) at the moment for 2 weeks with her friend so she's gonna get a nice wake up call when she finds out that i'm no longer in her life!! she'l be prob wondering why i have'nt contacted her to see how she's doing but she'l be a long time waiting!!!no chance!! I've had to deal with her selfish arrogant ways to long!! my rules now!!! sending you back a gift card? that is quite bitter!! WOW thatsreally drwing a line in the sand!! Trust me my friend the 2 months will do you the world of good!! You'l be a new man in 2 months time!!! I'm here for ya along with everybody else here man!!
Author BatteredByLove Posted June 29, 2006 Author Posted June 29, 2006 Yep you're right, there will be ups and there will be down, god, Im still hating myself for breaking NC the first time and going to her house and seeing her be pissed at me.... yeeeesh, that was scary. But someday I feel happy, others, not so good, I think you have that too right NedVed? But hey let's beat this thing together like all the other people here!!! Yep, you're doing great, two weeks, me... well after that 1 month and breaking the rules... 4 days lol , dont' worry, you'll only be four days ahead of me my friend . But yea, with the giftcard, that was crap, but hey, she still thinks about me though . She's writing a book, and the main character is based off of me , now, I don't care if she's bitter or whatever, she HAS gotta be thinking about me. And yea, let her contact you, keep up the faith, keep up the hope , I'm prayin for the same thing too, gotta keep faith, and if she doesnt contact me when school starts... crap... every single day of seeing me... OUGHTA bring back some flames, let's do this NC my friend, im here for you every step of the way too!!!!
Nedved28 Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 To right man!! I'm here for you to!! we'le keep this thread going so let me know how your doing!! No point in dealing with this alone!! A problem halfed is a problem shared as they say!! Life's not fair i'l prob get a post card from new york and u'l get a book wrote about u!!! some guys have all the luck!! and u'l be the main character to? your ex girlfriend could yet contribute to you getting loads of girls when it becomes a best seller!! you could be thanking her yet!! they'l wanna know the main character!! But yeah there's good days bad days!! You know yourself!! I guess its all part of the recovery process!! I'm not to far ahead of ya in the NC so d'ont worry!! At least your back on track and thats the main thing!!!
Author BatteredByLove Posted June 30, 2006 Author Posted June 30, 2006 Hhehehhehe, once that book becomes a new york times #1 seller, remember to hti me up , they all wanna know who that main character was lol. Hhehehe, pretty nice, if you get that postcard, DONT I REPEAT DO NOT answer. She called me today.... I think.... It was unknown though, so I really don't know, but nobody calls me with unknown... so... hehehe, lol, better go through it together then alone . Yep good days and bad days, hehehe, you think bout the future sometimes man? I do, lol, I know im not supposed to, but a guy can dream and home right? lol. That's the only thing we got, hope and faith, and of course, "if you're meant to be together, you'll be together, if not, you won't be", so, if somewhere deep down you know she's right for you , she's right for you, Im not saying go be a stalker and all lol, but hey, move on with life, and when they finally realizes the mistakes taht they've made, we might've move on already, who knows, scary thoughts aint it? lol. Keep me informed on how things go w/ New York, Two Months NC here I come!!!
Nedved28 Posted July 2, 2006 Posted July 2, 2006 I got a missed call friday evening from a 'new york' number!! I wonder who that could of been? lol That made my evening i must admit!!!! then switched the phone off till about 4 o'clock the next day in case she tryed again!!! she better get used to that!!
Author BatteredByLove Posted July 2, 2006 Author Posted July 2, 2006 Hrrrrrrm, wow, from New York.... nah man prolly wrong # lol, hehehhee nice, yea that made your evening, how did you and your gf break up NedVed? ya'll seemed to break up on good terms.
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