westernxer Posted July 2, 2006 Posted July 2, 2006 But isn't it unusual for an english teacher to spend his evening hours chatting on AOL messenger? He's not on there to teach English.
Tinman Posted July 2, 2006 Posted July 2, 2006 Gotta agree with TA; there are no red flags here. Actually, that's not entirely true. There's one big red flag and that's your paranoia. Figure out what you need to do to get over it and then do it. Maybe talk to someone about it if you don't think you can do it on your own. However, you do need to do this if you two are ever going to have a sucessful relationship with this woman [or any other for that matter]. This isn't healthy. Stop reading her emails, stop stalking her friends online. Stop analyzing if every kiss or "hello dear" is a sign of her infidelity. Just stop.
Author john1776 Posted July 2, 2006 Author Posted July 2, 2006 I'm going to dump her. How should I go about doing it? Wait for her to call me or should I just call her one last time and ask to meet up with her and tell her it's over? Also is it necessary for me to go into strict no contact mode after I tell her it's over?
The slayer Posted July 2, 2006 Posted July 2, 2006 Why don't you just tell her you have been reading all her emails. If I ever found out that someone did that to me, not only would it be over, but I would never have any contact with them ever again.
reservoirdog1 Posted July 2, 2006 Posted July 2, 2006 I'm going to dump her. How should I go about doing it? Wait for her to call me or should I just call her one last time and ask to meet up with her and tell her it's over? Also is it necessary for me to go into strict no contact mode after I tell her it's over? Ummm... okay.... If you just don't dig on her anymore, then that's fine. But if you DO still like her... you do realize you're going to end the relationship for no reason, don't you? Just checkin'...
BenefitOfTheDoubt Posted July 3, 2006 Posted July 3, 2006 I still want us to go to counseling but I will not make her go. I will go on my own. Yes, regardless whether you choose to continue this relationship, please get yourself into individual counseling. You have very serious trust issues that will destroy every relationship you try to have until you learn how to handle them. The sooner you get some help, the happier you (and your partner) will be.
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