Pink Amulet Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 Yes. I feel the same. A card is just a way to acknowledge this person you once loved is still alive. I ended my relationship and certainly don't want it back- the card doesn't impose a response.
RealBroken Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 I agree with u PINK AMULET, If we were arguing etc andn things were nasty, yeah why hurt yaself. But I actually find myself being rude and horrid if I ignored a Birthday. I would send any other friend a text or card. Would it really make them feel ur still wanting them back.... or wld it be seen as nice. As a guy I have had birthday wishes from girls i have dumped..... and i was quite pleased. It feels nice to me that they aren't all thinkin horrid towards you and that we can still get along like civil human beings. Would girls see this differently........ or different people take an offence???
jerbear Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 Contact opens up different cans of worms. For many it is not about a bday but more about pining for that person and trying to win them back. Clearing the OP had some hopes (30%) of getting her back. Now if he had 0% that is another story. In my case, I don't want to know my ex is doing someone new. Girls on the other hand tend to have a harder time letting go. Some want to be friends because they can have their cake and eat it to. Yes it can be thought of as nice, considerate and even thoughtful but they are ex's for a reason. If you don't really want to burn bridges then by all means contact them send a card or email. Do what you feel like, if it makes you feel better to contact then do it but know the consequences. Either way, contact leads to 2nd chance or temporary misery. That is why I recommend doing something you want to do. If you are going to be "damned if you do, damned if you don't" Might as well do something YOU want to do. This is just some reasons why contact is not recommended. We live and learn. My most recent one not leave a message on VM. She called the day before my bday and I knew it was her, I knew her 2nd line ring anywhere. I was happy and sad at the same time. I would have preferred if she either didn't call or left a message.
Author JohnHesse Posted June 30, 2006 Author Posted June 30, 2006 I got a email from her asking how i've been and what have i been doing, after about a month of nc. suspicious as her birthday is in a couple of days. what should i do, just reply with a simple happy birthday? be more interested in replying?
jerbear Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 I would wait before answering. If you write the reply, before sending it, get up, and walk away. Go back to the message and reread what you wrote. Do not sound desperate, do not sound goofy or crazy. Do keep it short and simple, don't elaborate to much. Once that happens, then you can reread it again then send it.
Winfield Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 I got a email from her asking how i've been and what have i been doing, after about a month of nc. suspicious as her birthday is in a couple of days. what should i do, just reply with a simple happy birthday? be more interested in replying? LOL - a bit coincidental, eh? I see where your suspicions arise from - are you thinking she's sent it as a way to say "hey, remember my birthday's coming up soon"? Ah, whatever her motives are (that is, if there are any motives ) for sending you the e-mail...if she's being civil enough, and things between you 2 didn't end on ugly terms, what reason is there not to reply? I suppose it would be rude not to. Just answer her question, say that you hope she's keeping well, etc (you don't have to bring any relationship talk into the message, just keep the conversation "light")...and maybe just say at the end something like "happy birthday when it comes". No harm in that, is there?
johan Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 I agree. I wouldn't write pages of heavy stuff to her. But nothing wrong with responding. Probably nothing wrong with letting her know you miss her and care about her. Just don't expect that to get you anywhere.
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