bored gf?

[emperorpenguin93]

my gf said a couple months ago that she was bored with us. that she wasn't given a chase. everything is fine though but we haven't had sex in a while and i'm totally ok with it, but how do i give her a chase or make her want me alittle more.

 

rekindle some lost spark

 

thanks

[Walk]

No one else replied to this, so I thought I'd throw out some suggestions/thoughts.

 

If I understood correctly, she wants you to chase her? Or she wants that passion back, the fire? The two of you are too comfortable with each other kind of feeling?

 

This ones hard... you can try doing something romantic. Take her out somewhere nice, or set up a romantic dinner at home. Bring her a flower at work, or leave a flower and "i love you" note on her car while she's at school/work. Take her on a picnic. Touch her more often. Tell her what you think is so wonderful about her. Compliment her on her eyes, her body, her mind. Send her a text telling her that you appreciate that she's chosen you, or thanking her for being there for you all the time.

 

Show more interest in the things that she's interested in. Follow up on stuff she mentions or says. Like if she makes a comment about work or school, ask her again later that night about it. Or ask more questions about what she's talking about. Show her that you are really interested in what she thinks/feels. Give her back rubs with no expectation of sex.

 

Or, on the flip side... change something that is common about you. If you're always the romantic guy during sex, then be the gruff and in charge guy. If you always do things she wants to do when you're together, then the next time plan something you want to do, and then tell her that is what you two are going to do. Make sure its something she'll enjoy too, you don't want to be an ass. But be decisive, and be the one in charge for a while. Flat out tell her "We are going to such and such a place, go get ready."

 

Another easy way to change things up is to start a new hobby with her. Maybe the two of you could take up bike riding. They've got fantastic trails all over this country. You two could discover new places and new things together. Take up hiking, or day trip back packing adventures. Learn to wall climb, or mountain climb. Take up canoeing or kayaking. They have lots of places to rent from for a day or couple hours. Basically anything that the two of you can do together that will increase your heart rates, and brings in new sensory experiences. And the harder you play with someone else, the more fun it is to relax later with that person.

 

Its kind of hard to shake things up after you get into a routine, so it might be hard for you at first. But it's really important you do something, and do it soon. Being "bored" in a relationship can quickly lead to some detrimental problems later on... so it's best to act now.

[JustWantToBeHappy]

It sounds to me like she wants something to chase, not the other way around. Is that correct emperorpenguin93?

 

If so, let the games begin or break it off.

 

She sounds like she's immature and will have regrets one day. The sooner you are unavailable, the sooner those regrets will kick in.

 

good luck