daphne Posted June 28, 2006 Posted June 28, 2006 I broke it off completely almost 2 weeks ago. I immediately gave him his stuff back in hopes of forgetting him and moving on. Unfortunately, he hasn't done the same. Since he was trying to string me along, I imagine he's waiting until he moves from the area to have an excuse to see me one last time. I don't care so much about the stuff. But I have repeatedly told him I don't want to hear from him again. I don't want to see him before he leaves. I don't want yet another set back. I'm moving forward and I'm afraid he's going to mess with me later. He seems to know just the moment to come back into my life when I'm getting over him. I can't ask for the stuff back, but has anyone else ever held someone's sstuff hostage so they could have an excuse to see the ex later?
TravelLight Posted June 28, 2006 Posted June 28, 2006 I haven't read any of your other threads. Is he a decent person?
copper Posted June 28, 2006 Posted June 28, 2006 my ex still has stuff here he keeps putting off picking up.... Im pretty sure he did this on purpose -- some last string for him to hold on to, though HE was the one who left ME. Now we are not talking and I dont know what to do with this stuff.
Author daphne Posted June 28, 2006 Author Posted June 28, 2006 travel, He was a decent person that showed a huge lack of integrity. He was a selfish liar.
Author daphne Posted June 28, 2006 Author Posted June 28, 2006 Copper, You could throw it away or drop it off at his doorstep and leave. Once I saw that it was really over, I couldn't stand to have it in my house anymore. I also didn't want any more excuses to see him. I was doing a whole lot better under no contact and I'm starting to feel better again. Although I still have nightmares. This is my second burn in the past 2 years. Before then, it had been about 10 since I've had a bad breakup as the other relationships were pretty good and ended fairly amicably.
Diver012 Posted June 29, 2006 Posted June 29, 2006 Copper, You could throw it away or drop it off at his doorstep and leave. Once I saw that it was really over, I couldn't stand to have it in my house anymore. I also didn't want any more excuses to see him. I was doing a whole lot better under no contact and I'm starting to feel better again. Although I still have nightmares. This is my second burn in the past 2 years. Before then, it had been about 10 since I've had a bad breakup as the other relationships were pretty good and ended fairly amicably. I almost threw my Ex's stuff away. The first night we broke up, I went mad and put everything in a box. Tossed it in the garrage, and covered it up so I wouldnt have to look at it. About a week and a half later I finially called her and asked when in the hell she was going to come and get it. I can completely understand where your coming from. I would just drop it off when you know he wont be around.. or give it to a mutual friend perhaps? This is my first really bad burn in almost 10 years myself. Most of my other relationship ended, well, by me. This last one, well there was no fighting to speak of, a little bickering but nothing I felt was major. I was completely blind sided. I have a few memories of 1 girl I didnt treat very well. I wasnt happy, and was thinking about breaking it off. She came over to get something from my house, and I was not in a good mood. I just didnt want to deal with her. She started to leave and I closed teh door behind her, she knocked and I opened it up. She said if I was going to continue to act like this, the relationship wasnt going to work. I said, your right it isnt working, and I dumped her. Cold. It was bad. Maybe God is teaching me a little humility through this. All I can say now is... Jenny, where ever you are, I hope your living a happy life. You didnt deserve to be treated that coldly. Im sorry.
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