LifeinLimbo Posted June 28, 2006 Posted June 28, 2006 Just when I think that I'm getting over my ex, I see him at work. Then we end up talking, laughing, joking around, and things feel like they used to. He randomly comes into my office to use the phone that we have. Then he'll make a phone call even though he could just use his cell (he uses it for everything) and leaves messages for people telling them to call him on his cell. Sometimes he just grabs stuff and leaves. He came into the office Monday and we talked. That night was a rough one. I decided to rent a movie and have a glass of wine to get my mind off of him. Bad idea. I ended up getting drunk and then I called him. I told him that I wanted to talk and asked if he could come over. He said yes right away and came over. I think he might have even gone home quickly and put on a nicer shirt. We talked for awhile and he was showing off how exciting his weekend was and then we started arguing again, like usual. He said that he wants to spend time with me but doesn't feel comfortable with me because of our breakup. He also feels like I'm a ball and chain (I require attention but I'm definately not high-maintenance). He said that he wants a casual relationship. I told him that in my books that means friends with benefits and that that's not what I'm looking for. He got so pissed. He said that that's not what he wants and he was so mad that I would think that. Then he started ranting about how bad our communication is. He said that he just wants to spend time with me and he doesn't want to argue anymore. He doesn't want things to be so serious. I'm very very tired of arguing too. At one point in the arguement he almost got up and left, at another point I almost kicked him out. He said that since I'd broken up with him he hadn't thought about us getting back together. He'd been keeping himself busy so that he wouldn't have to. I just don't get the guy. He's giving me such mixed signals that I have no idea what he wants. I've been thinking about him less and less and I think that I've been slowly moving on. Seeing him brings back so many memories and it makes me miss him so much. I guess we're back together now. I don't really know. I'm so confused. Can any guys tell me what is going on in my ex's (or bf's) head? I just don't get it.
Guest Posted June 29, 2006 Posted June 29, 2006 I'm sure he is just as confused as you are. If it were me, and my ex rang me up and told me to come over, all i would be thinking is "sex". Thats just me though, so its just a thought! How about talking to him somewhere slightly more public and when your not drunk. Coffee? Lunch? Dinner? That way you can think straight, and being in public you will restrain yourselves for arguing, at least i hope. Dont rush into just yet, let it settle a little because it seems to have happened quite fast. If you still feel the same after some time, then you'll have your answer.
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