misslady7 Posted June 28, 2006 Posted June 28, 2006 My boyfriend is on this website it's sort of like myspace.com but it has more features like instant messenging and so on. Honestly, it bothers me that he goes onto this website because when he does go on it's like he's trying to reach out to other females. I saw some messages he sent and most of them involve him telling the girl that she's sexy and for her to him it up sometime. And others involve him having a conversation which leads to him introducing himself by name and giving his telephone number. Now recently I told him that it really does bother me that he goes on there, as a matter of fact I have told him countless times it's just that this time I really expected him to do something about it. He told that he would disable his profile and I was fine with that, because in my opinion there is absolutely no need for that and it makes me feel a bit uneasy. He hasn't disabled his profile and I noticed that he logged on recently so I asked him what happened, why didn't he disable the profile and he basically tells me that It's not a big deal and says that he goes on to bulls*** when he's online, it's just a way to kill time and that's as far as it goes. But I am worried one day that he may be interested in meeting these women. Should I be understanding and believe that it's not a big deal. Am I overreacting because he says that I overreact over things. Please help me out.
Author misslady7 Posted June 28, 2006 Author Posted June 28, 2006 I mean should I be worried? I even asked my boyfriend a few moments ago does he thinks it's silly for me to feel worried that he may find interest in someone else, his response that he thinks it's silly for me to think that because he's happy where he is. But when he goes onto these websites, does that mean he's not happy, is it fun, is a way to get attention. Help me please because I need a way to understand the point of him going on this site, and whether or not I should worry.
ash8752 Posted June 28, 2006 Posted June 28, 2006 Well, ask him this: Do you want me going online, scoping out attractive men and proceeding to give them my phone number? In my eyes he is doing the same thing as going to a bar and exchanging numbers with girls which is definately OFF limits!!! It would be one thing if he was looking up old friends and that be that but he is telling women they are sexy when he should be telling you and only you that. Dont let him tell you you are overreacting, you're not. He said hed delete it and he hasnt and he is still disrespecting your relationship. Put your foot down, if he doesnt take care of the situation either make a profile yourself and do what he does (just to make him see how you feel) or give him something like a warning. My bf had myspace, i hated it, but i did overreact bc he only looked up friends. My bad!!! But if he was doing what your man is doing i would certainly do something about it till the problem was resolved. GOOD LUCK HUN!!! Men can be idiots! Not all of them, but a lot!
Author misslady7 Posted June 28, 2006 Author Posted June 28, 2006 Thanks for the response. And my answer to your question about asking if he would like if I did the same. He basically told me he wouldn't mind.
ash8752 Posted June 28, 2006 Posted June 28, 2006 I hate when they do that. It's not true, but he seems like the type that will see you do it, keep his anger inside and keep on with what he is doing. You know what, with him, be honest. Try to stay calm and explain how it is making you feel. Tell him you dont believe you are overreacting (cause youre not) and tell him what you feel it is doing to your relationship. If he cares enough he will get it, just try not to attack him. Hopefully he will understand and delete the account! Good luck again! If he doesnt respect your feelings believe me, you can find a lot better. I bet he is a good guy and all but that is very upsetting and doesnt do much for your self esteem which should be a priority of his.
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