Myz_Heavenly Posted June 28, 2006 Posted June 28, 2006 Okay you guys, here is my situation... My husband recently signed up for Regular Army and is stationed in another state from where I live. He called me last night and after we conversed for a while, he said he would talk to me later because he wanted to wind down from a long day of training. 30 minutes later, he calls me back and he asks me how was my day? I could immediately sense that he didn't know he was talking to me because he'd called me earlier, and his voice was different. I said fine and asked how was his? He said he didn't know and I asked why? He proceeded to say he didn't know because his ex-wife had officially moved out and he wasn't having such good luck with women. I said, this is your wife that you're talking to and he went silent, so I hung up. I called him back to get an explanation and after he picked up, he just held the phone for a minute then I could hear him fumbling for the end button and he hung up. I proceeded to call him back a few times, but kept getting his voice mail. He called me back a half hour later and said he was sleep and didn't know what I was talking about when I asked him about the female that he thought he was talking to. He said he must have done it in his sleep. What do you think? I really don't believe him.
Pink Amulet Posted June 28, 2006 Posted June 28, 2006 Oh no! This sounds like trouble... If this were your worst nightmare confirmed the problem is he had that half an hour to compose himself, and figure out a good lie. There is no sure fire way to find out either... It just sounds dodgy to me... It takes a while for someone to slip in to REM (rapid eye movement) where the body will create it's own aneathesia compound preventing movement when you are in an unconcious state (these levels can be disrupted and sleep walking, and talking can occur). The thing is, this usually takes more than half an hour. And judging by the fact that it was only half an hour prior since his call to you, I would say something is up...
sugarplum Posted June 28, 2006 Posted June 28, 2006 Personally, I would not believe this load a crap for a second. But if, by some stretch of the imagination it were true - would dreaming about having an ex-wife and not having luck scoring other women really be much better than if it were true? My advice probably isn't much good since I am hell bent on revenge lately, but I would pick something to do that would really yank his chain and then claim I must have been dreaming and have no clue what he is talking about!
jmargel Posted June 28, 2006 Posted June 28, 2006 Talking in your sleep is one thing but to hold a conversation for such a long time is something hard to believe. I would check his cell phone records, demand that you see them. Plus for him to call two women in his sleep is kinda hard to believe. My brothers talk in their sleep & have done some other things which are kinda scary. One just got up around 3am and walked over to a neighbor's house. Kept ringing the doorbell, when they answered all he said was 'Hello' and walked back to his bed. lol He doesn't remember that. My other brother (they are both truck drivers) actually started up his truck (from a rest stop) and started to drive down the interstate doing 70 mph. It was a miracle he didn't wreck. So it could happen however if he doesn't have a history of doing this then I would think he's making up a lie. That he didn't realize he dialed your number instead of this OW. However the only proof you can get is by looking at his cell phone records.
crazy_grl Posted June 28, 2006 Posted June 28, 2006 I think it took him half an hour to come up with a plausible excuse before he called you back. Believing his story requires a lot more imagination than believing that he was calling an OW and dialed the wrong number by mistake.
UnknowingOW Posted June 28, 2006 Posted June 28, 2006 Review is phone records. You should be able to get them online. Also, if you know his passcode for his voicemail, that will tell you too. Good luck.
Ihatemyselfnow Posted June 28, 2006 Posted June 28, 2006 What does your gut instinct tell you ? This one is definately fishy. If he was "sleep talking" then why did he hang up when you told you were his wife ?
sylviaguardian Posted June 29, 2006 Posted June 29, 2006 Sorry, but this one takes the biscuit! It only took him 30 minutes to fall into a deep sleep and then he manages to call you in his sleep???!!! If he was sleep-walking/talking, why would he turn the phone onto voice mail when you called back? Then suddenly he wakes up from his 'deep sleep' and calls you back? He was calling some other woman and misdialled. When he went silent it was because he was well and truly busted! It took him 30 mins to come up with his desperate and crazy plan. Get his phone bill and check it.
stillafool Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 Definitely he is lying. Boy does he think he's slick!!!!
sugarplum Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 I just had to come back and read this story again! This is just one of the most ridiculous stories I had ever heard. I mean, 30 minutes to think and this was the best he could do? A friend of mine had her husband come home from a night out with a frickin' hickey on his neck. He tried to say that he got in a fight and the other guy grabbed at his neck and it was somekind of friction burn! (I bet there was some kind of friction going on - but not that!) Then he cried like a baby. They will come up with anything! Take the earlier advice. Get records. Document. Time for self-preservation mode. OP, I feel really bad for you. I think you are asking what we think because you really want to trust what your husband says (dont we all...) and you really dont want to believe that something could be going on. This must be terrible to be going through - my heart goes out to you!
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