jessssss Posted June 28, 2006 Posted June 28, 2006 well my bf and i have a free place to stay at a secluded beach about 5 hrs from here..i'm stoked because i think we could use some time away from here and having a free place by ourselves - you can't beat that. well, he was excited about it when we planned it, now i don't think he is so much. it is a place that neither one of us know anything about (which i thin kthat's what makes it fun) and we are only going for friday and having to drive back sunday...unless his new job will give him more time off. my question is...should i take it that he doesn't want to go with me?? will he be bored with me if we just go alone?? he has mentioned going with another couple and taking them with us but i feel like this is our opportunity to be together and it's not that i don't think the other couple would be fun, i just want to be me and him - and i wish he would say that to me...he hasn't mentioned inviting them since i told him i really wanted it just me and him since we've not had much time together lately. part of me thinks he doesn't even want to go and it is killing me inside... he doesn't like the beach, by the way, that may be why he is whiny about it right now. and the thing is i'm not asking him to go to teh beach the whole ti'me we're there...last year we had a GREAT vacatin together in vegas...it was awesome, coupel that was supposed to go couldn't...i want that again... am i overreacting and overanalyzing everythign? should i be up front with him again and kinda throw the ball in his court and ask him if he really wats to go and if not we need to tel lthe people so they can rent it out?? i just want him to be happy...but i want to be happy too...
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted June 28, 2006 Posted June 28, 2006 Talk to him and see what ideas you BOTH can come up with for things to do so you don't get bored. Don't let him know that you are thinking he doesn't want to go. If he doesn't want to go, he might just tell you when you talk about it. Or maybe that's why you are afraid to approach him about it? If you can compromise, where you do something for a few hours that he totally decides on, then he agrees to spend a few hours at the beach with you. 5 hrs seems like a long drive for two nights but that's just me.
Author jessssss Posted June 28, 2006 Author Posted June 28, 2006 yeah, i'm not looking forward to the drive. he just got a new job so that is another key factor...can't really ask off for time when you just started a week ago...so i'm sure he's teetering on how to ask for a friday off or maybe more...i'd love to go thursday night after work so we have all day friday and all day saturday - we'll see. he's definitely not a planner...he's spontaneous and maybe that is another thing why it's so hard to read him. i think he wants to go but i think money concerns him...i was telling his mom about it and he smiled but gave it a thumbs down...not sure if he was doing that in front of her cause she has been helping give him money for bills so he knows she doesn't want us going to spend the money, possibly HER money...but then again he'll have been working for almost 2 months and it will be his money....ugh...it just hurt my feelings that he gave it a thumbs down..but he had a smile and was joking...i'm taking everything so literally lately...what has gotten into me...
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