Keepin' it on the LD

[UnknowingOW]

Hi everyone,

 

I've not been responding much the last few days. Although I have read and responded to a few post. (Keep it up MO!! I am so proud of you!!)But I feel like I'm doing a dis-service to myself and others who are working so hard to help me.

 

Updates:

• The Ex F has done as requested...NC. I knew he would and honestly, I have no desire to call or communicate with him any more. Not even a tear, want, or need has occured since I told him to NC me.
  
• The MM...that's another story completely.

Why is it the day I finally decide I am going to send the new NC email he decides to open up to me. Is it ESP??? I'm not talking about "where" I fit into his life. I mean about everything.

 

It was so sad to hear a person talk of loss, anger, resentment, the counseling failures, the confusion of what to do. I listened. I listened for last two days has he shared. I know this is only one side of the story and he needs to see her side (which we have not discussed)

 

I revealed my own experiences with my marriage and my divorce, as I have shared with you all. I didn't give him any answers. That we all must do on our own.

 

I finally said to him. Each person has to chose the path which is right for them. I told him he needed to validate/express his feelings, emotions, wants and needs for if he didn't he would never live a fulfilling life.

 

Maybe he was put in my path to help him through a rough time and to work beyond it and get back on track. I don't mean, leaving her for me. I've never believed that even when I thought he was single.

 

So maybe I am a foolish old woman trying to help a friend get through a rough moment. I'm staying absolute with my regards to ever seeing him again. My rules will not change on that and he knows that.

 

I don't know if I am right or wrong with my actions at this point, and that's why I made the original statement above.

[MarnieGirl]

My rules will not change...he knows that.

 

 

and you know that too, which is even more important.