clandestine Posted June 28, 2006 Posted June 28, 2006 I dont know if i posted this in the right thread but...heres my story I knew this girl back in elementary school..and we werent the best of friends but we talked at school and on msn, and she called me a couple times so i began to 'fall' for her ... Then highschool came along and our friendship slowly died down from a 'hi' in the hallways to nothing at all. We just graduated from high school and now im regretting that i never talked to her or asked her out earlier. I still have her msn and so in desperate attempt, I begin to talk to her. All goes well after the first convesation, but during all the next attempts to talk to her, she ignores me. I know for a fact that she hasnt blocked me as her computer is always on, she being on 'away' or 'online' status. What im trying to do is to mend the lost relationship and hopefully create a better relationship. In my case, this person is someone I CANT let go. She has probably been in my mind everyday for the last few years and i was too shy to let her know. Its come to the point where its either her or nothing, and its making me very depressed. I dont know where to go and what to do, if anyone has any advice or comments please do post! Thanks
SweptAway Posted June 28, 2006 Posted June 28, 2006 There's only one solution to the problem. You need to ask her out on a date. Something along the lines of "I always wanted to know you better so...." Do you know if she is single? If she says no to the date, then you need to move on. No contact, try and find someone else to take your mind off her, a new hobbie, keep busy etc
Laura_t Posted June 28, 2006 Posted June 28, 2006 Swept away is right....if shes not into the whole date thing it probably means she isn't interested... either that or shes playing hard to get... give it a try and see what you find... u never no... she might fall for u if u tell her how u feel about her
Author clandestine Posted June 29, 2006 Author Posted June 29, 2006 SweptAway- Yes, Im pretty sure she is single..but since I havent really talked to her much in a very long time, do you think its ok to just ask her out quickly ? Would it be better to call her or try via IM? (a phone call will be unexpected) Im also thinking that since ive messaged her over such short period of time, 1 week..I should wait a little while before I try again because that may seem like im very desperate. So many questions..and thanks for those who answered and will answer, it is greatly appreciated.
juliou20 Posted June 29, 2006 Posted June 29, 2006 Well Dude, If She Is Ignoring You, Maybe Its For A Reason. Im Very Sorry To Say This But Maybe She Is Just Not Interested. I Have Had A Similar Situation Back In The Day And I Just Said "the Hell With It, If Its Not Ment To Be-its Not Ment To Be":(. If You Like You Can Try My Method Of Finding Your Hunny Bun. I Have Been Using Online Chating Services To Meet Girls In My Area And It Went Very Well For Me. You Can Use Yahoo, Msn Or Webdate Even. You Wont Take Long To Get Friends And Then Comes The Dates. Good Luck Buddy. Julio
Author clandestine Posted July 2, 2006 Author Posted July 2, 2006 Any more suggestions/solutions? If I were to call her up and ask her out..should I wait awhile or do it as soon as possible?
confused423 Posted July 3, 2006 Posted July 3, 2006 i know you have immense feelings for her, but what good are they if she never finds out? and im NOT saying tell her first chance you get, but just ask her out for coffie, or dinner, just say youd like to catch up, if you feel like telling her then do it, if you two say 'we should do this again sometime' then ...do it again sometime. Im not sure if i got this right but if you just recently graduated from high school then youve got ALOT more women to meet out there! And call, no texting or IMing its impersonal and you obviously dont want to be impersonal. when you call just be outgoing and say how are things, how are you doing, whats new, get to know whatever it is about her you dont know, women do enjoy when a man actually cares. And just go somewhere. Go do something as friends and see how you are together. And to say shes the only woman for you or no women at all. that mentality might scare women away, its not like you can spot the woman your gonna marry out of a crowd, you have to ask out, go on dates, see what personality you fit with, and if your already planning your wedding day in your mind on the first date, your gonna scare the crap out of them. Just out of high school is not usually the age for most to get married, mostly because youve got a million hurdles to jump, working, your own home, school, being 18, being 21, all that stuff. Just have fun, theres no pressure, thats the way it should be in a relationship the two come together because they want to be, because one another complement eachother. so have fun, if its with this woman then cool, if its with another thats fine. Treating relatioships as 'all or nothing' is way to stressful.
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