emotional abuse ? respond if u can

[tink22702]

I think i am in an emotinally abusive relationship or should i say out of one. My boy friend of five years and i just split up three weeks ago. We were still hangin out and actually spent all of last weekend together. and we were still having sex. But heres the catch I have always wondered if he had a problem but neer looked into it for i was blinded by love. He would always tell me i was psycho for everytime we got in a fight i would cry and cry to an exstreme but i have relaized now it was becuase evertime i would cry hewould tell me to stop f***ing crying or i would have to leave and i would cry more and he would continue to yell at me to leave untill he would threaten to call the cops or push me out the door, i know thats just my side of the storie but it cant be normal. Well any way yesterday even though i am not his girlfriend i offered to lend him 200 dollers, so i called him up and said i wasgoing out to dinner with friends and wondered if he would behome later that nightso i could bring it by when i got home. He said ok we talked for a fe more mins then he asked why i couldnt bring it before i wnet out and i said well its just easier if i bring it later, and he was like you know what i dont want your m oney then i said i could bring it by after i got out of the showerbeforei wnet out hecontinued toyell said i cant do anything forhim and hung up. he called back2 ins later to say i better not drop the money off at ishouse cause hedoes notwant it he dosent knowwhyheborrowed mon ey fromme in the first place. i began to cry he said i cant dos*** for him and he doeseverything forme, then he hung up andsaiddont call meback. i called backtwoce tomake a long story short there was about an hour of me crying tellinghimhewasbreaking my heart while he just saidwell this is thelasttime your going to talk to mesoget out what you need to say, he told me i was crazy and would becrazy for the rest of my life that i will never change i will treat everyone like that, and the last five years of his life were miserable then he finally hung up said he was wasting his battery and his breath and said if i call him again he will change hisnumber. This is all after the night before i told him i loved him allover again in a heartfelt way saying i knew it was real love now,and he told me he wanted to gotosleep and rolled over, then i began to cry he nugged me told me to stop f***ing crying or i would have to leave, i keept crying he keept getting angry.

I need advice and help

[Outcast]

First, dump the jerk and quit clinging to people who mistreat you. Then go find a counsellor and find out why you pick jerks like this and 'love' them even when they mistreat you. It's not healthy behaviour.

[blind_otter]

yeah um that's not normal. you need to ask yourself why you keep pursuing a relationship with someone who treats you like s***, and what do you get out of this interaction? Less money,less self respect, and a lot of degradation.