Author Pink Amulet Posted June 27, 2006 Author Posted June 27, 2006 I'll say! It seems like drama sticks to me like this f*cking rash! I am thinking about having a televison camera follow me around. It would be great ratings I am sure.
933KJL Posted June 27, 2006 Posted June 27, 2006 OK, so the drama is over...now tell us all about the sex. Details please
Author Pink Amulet Posted June 27, 2006 Author Posted June 27, 2006 Haha. Wow, well I obviously don't want to think about it in too much detail. I think I may have mentioned it a bit in my thread "medical symptoms of stress". It was unplanned (well on my half anyway ). He was driving me home and suddenly said he couldn't concentrate on driving while looking at my legs anymore. So he pulled over in to a dark carpark, and we started kissing, it got a bit hot and heavy, and he grabbed my legs and spun me around in my seat and... well, started servicing me... I got out of the car and pulled my skirt up and.... you know, even though it was hot at the time. Reliving this memory, make me realise he got me at a vulnerable time, and he must be so happy I didn't ask him to take me to his house... He was incredible, but I don't really want to think about it anymore!
jerbear Posted June 27, 2006 Posted June 27, 2006 I'll say! It seems like drama sticks to me like this f*cking rash! I am thinking about having a televison camera follow me around. It would be great ratings I am sure. Great to see that you are strong, told him off, and able to nib this issue. Just keep an eye out for random stuff. The television camera prevents him from abusing his public trust powers of being an officer. I have seen officers abuse their arresting powers to get information and rile someone up; to just arrest someone. Most officers have to be rough and tumble; encountered a recent hire in the past and almost used my one call to call his superiors to complain.
Outcast Posted June 27, 2006 Posted June 27, 2006 Always always remember oxytocin. If you don't know about it, google it + Helen Fisher. It's the chemical which creates a feeling of being bonded with someone and it is triggered when you have sex with someone. Which, IMHO, is an excellent reason for not having sex with someone until you know what kind of person he is - i.e. after giving yourself some time to get to know him. Being horny about someone is a biological response and not one that's a good idea to go with right off the bat for many reasons. This guy sounds like a sex addict among other things. And how dare he as a cop say he's coming to your house uninvited? I'm glad you put him off. I'm just worried that he won't take 'no' for an answer that easily. Be aware that an unfortunately high proportion of police (and firemen!) have drinking problems and other issues. Don't let the hot uniform and the 'saving people for a living' thing fool you.
Author Pink Amulet Posted June 27, 2006 Author Posted June 27, 2006 I hope you don't all think I am some whore that just slept with this guy because he was a cop. We actually met the night I was assaulted. He looked after me and took my statement a week later at the station. I saw him one night out (he was doing the city beat) and he asked how I was, and asked where my boyfriend was. I informed him I was no longer with him. He then asked if he could call me sometime. I said sure. We have been talking on the phone and smsing a fair bit. Just thought I should mention that to keep some integrity on this site.
bab Posted June 27, 2006 Posted June 27, 2006 You will all be happy to know I SLAPPED HIM and told him if he ever contacted me again I would publish a story which would ruin his career (I could never actually do this in anyway but he believed me enough to leave) Yay!!! :bunny: Happy dance!
thegoodhubbie Posted June 27, 2006 Posted June 27, 2006 We actually met the night I was assaulted. He looked after me and took my statement a week later at the station. I saw him one night out (he was doing the city beat) and he asked how I was, and asked where my boyfriend was. I informed him I was no longer with him. He then asked if he could call me sometime. I said sure. We have been talking on the phone and smsing a fair bit. Just thought I should mention that to keep some integrity on this site. Wow. This guy planned from the minute he met you to take advantage of you. As a police officer it was totally unethical for him to ask you out after he knew you had been assaulted. Unfortunately, this is something I have heard of before.
babydoll_mimi Posted June 27, 2006 Posted June 27, 2006 I'm also 20 at least for another 2 weeks.lol. All I can say is although it's 'wrong', I too felt/feel that thrilling rush from the A. However, mine has progressesd into a love for the MM, and it's mutual at this point. My situation is kind of weird, and I too, had always said I could never date/screw/whatever a MM. Some people have told me that it's human nature to test limits, and I suppose this could be one instance. My best advice however, is to stay away from him. I know it's tempting, God I know it's tempting, but in the end, you'll be helping him and yourself if you just stay away.
babydoll_mimi Posted June 27, 2006 Posted June 27, 2006 Just read the rest of ur posts, so glad to hear u told him to get lost. But I think you're my long lost twin.lol...I too have a history w/ married cops hitting on me
Author Pink Amulet Posted June 27, 2006 Author Posted June 27, 2006 Awww, thanks. It is tough. I just love the authority police possess. It is such a turn on... it made it harder to say no. But I really have no desire to start a married mans car so to speak. I have enough drama in my life! However, I seem to recall social conditioning says you should always do what the police tell you too ironic really as people were advising me to call the police.
babydoll_mimi Posted June 27, 2006 Posted June 27, 2006 lmao... very true... cops are hard to resist...so are Marines...but I'm learning to stay away even if they're single b/c most, not all, but most military guys havea problem w/ commitment
Author Pink Amulet Posted June 27, 2006 Author Posted June 27, 2006 Don't even get me started on marines.... I have spoken enough of them to have my friends thinking this is my reason for soon moving to the US! I have been SO cheered up, by everyone on LS tonight. It was a s*** day overall, but there have been some hilarious threads/posts which have kept me laughing. So I just wanted to thank everyone! Esp. those who have replied to this thread. I do believe you just saved me a lot of heart ache.
Sami_D Posted June 27, 2006 Posted June 27, 2006 Hmm.... You have a one night stand, find out he's married, and then walk away... (what other course of action would there BE, I wonder..???) not sure what all the drama is about? Why is this even in OW?
Author Pink Amulet Posted June 27, 2006 Author Posted June 27, 2006 If this is how you feel then why did you bother replying?
Author Pink Amulet Posted June 27, 2006 Author Posted June 27, 2006 Once again, as I was closing the thread with thanks to those who reminded me what a dangerous road I was walking in to- regardless of the potential thrill. He came at a weak point in my life, 'buttering me up' with sweet words, and handsome looks, and if it wern't for this forum I may have made a huge mistake.
whichwayisup Posted June 27, 2006 Posted June 27, 2006 I think the fact PA slept with a MM is reason enough to have posted in this section. She knows what's what and isn't going to do it again. People need to talk about their issues and get insight from others. Most who posted were helpful and prevented her from pursuing this MM and wanting a relationship with him. She may not be a typical OW, in an affair, but she was an OW for one night... The guy is married and has a wife. PA, good for you to walk away. Hmm, I wonder if he is going to tell his wife about what happened........ ......
Ladyjane14 Posted June 27, 2006 Posted June 27, 2006 Once again, as I was closing the thread with thanks to those who reminded me what a dangerous road I was walking in to- regardless of the potential thrill. He came at a weak point in my life, 'buttering me up' with sweet words, and handsome looks, and if it wern't for this forum I may have made a huge mistake. Good job, Amulet. When words and actions don't meet.... the guy is bullsh*tting you. That's handy information for a young woman to bear in mind.
Sami_D Posted June 27, 2006 Posted June 27, 2006 Well I am very glad that people on this thread were able to back up your view that a MM who lies about his position is evidently someone to walk away from. I will apologise if I hurt you in any way, because I know you're young etc. My post was a reaction against the support that your thread gives to the idea that affairs are all about lust, sex, and MM who are liars. It drives me mad. The longest threads in this forum are ALL posted by very young girls who run away with the idea that it's all a game, or, in your case... post about the thrills and fun of it all. My affair was nothing like that. And it makes me seethe that these threads get all the attention, and that this is how OW and MM are perceived. I DO apologise... because you could so easily have turned into Mandy and her Dentist... but you didn't. I really don't see, however, how you could not have come to that conclusion on your own. But you know what ... I've decided I'm going to post what I THINK, rather than the PC version of what I think, in this forum, from now on. Yours was the first thread in which I practiced that. It will alienate some maybe, but at least it's my authentic voice. Tired of listening to rubbish in this forum.
Sami_D Posted June 27, 2006 Posted June 27, 2006 I think the fact PA slept with a MM is reason enough to have posted in this section. She knows what's what and isn't going to do it again. ...... Well I don't want to argue the toss for too long. But it's OBVIOUS she knows what's what and isn't going to do it again. That is exactly why I wondered why she was asking advice on being the OW.
Author Pink Amulet Posted June 27, 2006 Author Posted June 27, 2006 Thank you for your apology. I must say however, I do resent you saying it was a one night stand. I would never have slept with him if I thought it was going to be a one off... Just so you know. Anyway, I wanted to post on this forum for fear of being scorned by 'hurt betrayed spouses' in the general relationship discussion. I needed to have the understanding I read on the threads I did read through as well as the knowledge of how these things could spiral.
whichwayisup Posted June 27, 2006 Posted June 27, 2006 My post was a reaction against the support that your thread gives to the idea that affairs are all about lust, sex, and MM who are liars. It drives me mad. The longest threads in this forum are ALL posted by very young girls who run away with the idea that it's all a game, or, in your case... post about the thrills and fun of it all. My affair was nothing like that. And it makes me seethe that these threads get all the attention, and that this is how OW and MM are perceived. But you put your own personal spin on this Sami. This thread is about PA, not about ALL OW or even you. It's all about her... This is why these replies cause problems. You don't like the fact that she is NOT an OW, yet she posted in here for help. She does deserve the right to post in here, either way... Yours was the first thread in which I practiced that. It will alienate some maybe, but at least it's my authentic voice. Tired of listening to rubbish in this forum. I suggest you go read forum rules then. If you start alienating some, most of your replies will be deleted. You've been gone a while and things have changed abit around here. The fighting and finger pointing, causing hurt feelings and people reacting even more is less and less...The mods are keeping an eye on stuff like this. It all comes down to now, if one doesn't like someone or doesn't like what someone has posted, USE the alert key OR don't comment on that particular thread... I don't mean to make matters worse here, but I still don't think anybody has the right to tell someone NOT to post in this section because they feel what happened isn't significant enough to be worthy of advice. That's just unfair to the OP and to anybody else in the future who wants to share their story or ask for help...
Sami_D Posted June 27, 2006 Posted June 27, 2006 Even so... you wouldn't have got any flak for sleeping with a MM if you didn't know he was married. No need to post in Infidelity ~ that's not even relevant either. Any section here would have done. General dating and getting hoodwinked by a liar. But.. it wasn't your questions (will it spiral? why do i feel like this?) that got to me, it's the rest of the carnival following it in... all that stuff about lying MM, etc. I didn't mean to attack you personally, but the tangent of the thread, which is something we don't need here.
whichwayisup Posted June 27, 2006 Posted June 27, 2006 all that stuff about lying MM, etc. But that info COULD help someone else who is lurking...Sorry to say this, but some of it IS true, even if you don't like it or have been burned by your MM. I don't think anybody has been out of line in this thread, just speaking from their hearts, or through their own experiences.
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