jhurtinct Posted June 27, 2006 Posted June 27, 2006 Its been along time since I've had a date. I've felt pretty s***ty about myself for along time now, due to being in a very emotional abusive relationship. So heres what happened, Fri night I ran into a guy I haven't seen in yrs I had a crush on him in like 2nd grade (mind you I'm 12yrs out of HS), we remembered eachothers names and families as soon as we saw eachother. I admitted to the 1st crush which he remembered, along with afew other things we did as kids. We spent the rest of the night together out he left his friend to stay with me, we had a really great time he asked for my # which I said for sure......... He kissed me (I swear I wouldn't have kissed him first) I swear he asked if it was ok he did that and I said yes. Skip ahead quick:::he says he thinks I kissed him 1st and he doesn't remember asking that:::: I drove him home (his friend left earlier) we sat outside and kissed I don't remember if we talked alot but we sure kissed alot, I didn't want to leave him I couldn't stop smiling. He said it was late and tomorrow was another day. He said he would call Sat. if it wasn't to late after his erands I said he could've come to a pinic with me. Well he did call about 7pm I waited until about 9:30 to call back. We spoke about how busy he would be on Sun. with a family party but would call and we talked about if it was early enough we would try to have coffee or something. He called Sun. night and we went out for a few drinks I was so nervous I felt sick, but it was nice there wasn't one minute in about 2 hours that was silent. We had nice conversation and didn't take our eyes off one another, to the point were a women commented to him when I used the ladies room that we were so cute together and we looked so into one another and it was obvious that nothing else there mattered. because she then turn around and told me the same when he went to go. we went to leave he didn't try to kiss me but I couldn't help it and kissed him, He showed me around his house we talked alittle more then it was late he had work. walked me out and we kissed goodnight I said call me he said he would I said get some sleep and he said I won't be able to sleep:rolleyes: Hoping that is a good sign:love: There were a few times when we just stared at eachother and smiled until one blushed, I went home and couldn't get his smile out of my head (talk about not sleeping:o ) Problem is he didn't call today and now of coarse I'm thinking oh no did I do something wrong please tell me he'll call soon. I just got such a great feeling being with him I can't even discribe it. Now the help: How long does it take for a guy to call again? Does this sound good or bad or still can't tell? Should I be the one to call next? How long should I wait? ::::::::::He did tell his mother who I knew growing up that he saw me and she remembered the crush ( I said I guess I was pretty open about it) but is that a good sign? ::::::::::He told the women that approached him that this was our second date, he thought. Is that a good sign? :::::::::He said a few times he wasn't going to go out Fri night but he was glad he did. You Know the?question? I feel like a kid again but the butterflies are there:bunny:
j.carsey Posted June 27, 2006 Posted June 27, 2006 Sounds OK to me overall, so far. Sometime stuff happens and people can't phone. Maybe if you don't hear in another day just phone him back. It's no big deal, there aren't too many rules to this (or any actually)
Author jhurtinct Posted June 27, 2006 Author Posted June 27, 2006 thank you for your reply. As I said its been a very long time since I've had to do this and I'm just unsure and nervous and I don't want to do anything to screw it up (screwing things up is one of my greatest acomplishments, lol). Anyway I know I am just reading too much into this but I really liked how it all felt.
Walk Posted June 27, 2006 Posted June 27, 2006 I was wondering if he called yet? I know when I start dating someone there are times I don't have a chance to call. Well, I could've if they wouldn't be hurt I only talked for 5 minutes and ran. But I like to set aside time for talking to someone I'm getting to know. Have things around me relatively quiet so I can focus on what the other person is saying, etc. But some day's it just isn't possible. Or by the time it is, I think they'll think I'm rude for calling so late. Or I worry they don't want to talk to me. Or... Or.. all the things you worry about he's probaby worried about too.
dgiirl Posted June 27, 2006 Posted June 27, 2006 Relax! Play it cool. When we're too anxious, we tend to mess things up. Just relax. If he calls, great. If not, NEXT
Author jhurtinct Posted June 27, 2006 Author Posted June 27, 2006 Thank you guess for your responses, I truely appreciate all of them. NO he hasn't called he does work all day, and he knows I have a child to take care of so I won't call it another day without a call until after 10pm. I really hope he calls tonight though, I can stop thinking about him....... If he doesn't I'm sure next will come around this wkend:laugh: Any more thoughts though because i really hope he, its like the whole situation is too good to have even happened, its just strange almost it was suppose to happen this way I think thats why I am so anxious.
Author jhurtinct Posted June 28, 2006 Author Posted June 28, 2006 Still nothing now I'm going to sleep, I figure if I don't hear anything by about 8pm tomorrow I'll try calling once. Any thoughts on me calling him and what to leave in a message I know I'll prob, get voicemail, can you tell I've been through it before>> Please keep me sane:)
everlastinggobstoppr Posted June 28, 2006 Posted June 28, 2006 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PNHkS__348E
Author jhurtinct Posted June 29, 2006 Author Posted June 29, 2006 He called lastnight, and we're going out Fri night:) It does feel so much better that he called me again rather than me calling him:) thanks for the feed back.
Author jhurtinct Posted June 30, 2006 Author Posted June 30, 2006 We set plans for tomorrow, I went and got something new to wear tonight. I am really excited, but I haven't gone out to dinner with someone other than my sons father in about 6 yrs, so I am very nervous. I have butterflies in my stomach I haven't felt in prob about the same amount of time. I just fear the worst, although I did on sunday also and was great. I worry there will be too much silent and akward time or something worse like I'll make a fool out myself being me, I spill things, I trip over things, I sometimes try and be funny and say something really silly. I just fear the worst and I am soooo nervous. Any advice for great first dates and rules and such would be appreciated.
Brittanyjean06 Posted July 1, 2006 Posted July 1, 2006 What your getting nervous about could be you syking your self out, and anticipating the moment of hanging out with him and that can always built up butterflies . What I do to block the nervousness, I literally stop thinking about it, and the butterflies go away a little bit. But it could be awkward at first and I'm sure he is just as nervous, but once you guys get comfortable with eachother than everything will work out Thats what I hate the most about starting to like someone, because at first you just feel so nervous you feel sick, but after that It's all worth it, than you just get excited and not nervous Try to turn your nervousness in to more excitment, that helps to!
Author jhurtinct Posted July 1, 2006 Author Posted July 1, 2006 Just got in from our date, jope to see him again it was a really nice time. If he doesn't call me by tomorrow night I will call him, He did make a coment about there will be a next time so I hope thats a good sign.
Sand&Water Posted July 1, 2006 Posted July 1, 2006 Sounds like he's a keeper. Hope it goes well. Good luck.
Author jhurtinct Posted July 3, 2006 Author Posted July 3, 2006 He called today and it made me smile. Yesterday about 1pm I sent a text message : Wanted to say thank you again I had a great time lastnight(which was the worst thing I could have done.) All day I sat around and waited for a call I never got. I thought maybe he didn't get it, I know he couldn't text back but a phone call would've been nice, then I thought if he did get it I did something to ruin it. So today he calls left a message I waited about 2 hours to call back and He asked if I wanted to go out tomorrow because he didn't have to work. I said yes. So we will see what tomorrow brings, I am very happy though. He says he got me text message yesterday but later and that he had a goodtime also. MY ? is why did he wait until today to call in the afternoon, is it for the same reason I waited 2 hrs to call back (just not to seem like I was waiting) or is it maybe worse, or am I just transferring emotions from one horrible heartbreak and going way to far into it with this whole situation. PS just truely left my sons father for the last and final time 1mo ago, although its been hell for yrs. Thank you
Author jhurtinct Posted July 4, 2006 Author Posted July 4, 2006 I am not getting any feed back here so I'll use this for my personal journal of things. I just got in we went to dinner and drinks with a very close friend of his and his friends gf, had an excellant time havn't laughed that hard in a long time. We both talked after that and he had a great time also was very glad I got along so well with both of them. He asked what I was doing tomorrow and told me its ok for me to call him, and he would like it if I did so he wasnt calling all the time. So I said I would call and I can't wait hope it turns out good for the best, I'm probably happier now than in a very long time, I know I just had the best time in a long time, three cheers for me:)
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