Stunner Posted June 27, 2006 Posted June 27, 2006 Wow. I am so impressed with the difference. This gentleman and I are meeting for our first date on Wed. We've been talking back and forth and exchanging emails for several days now. It's amazing what a more mature man can convey and discuss comfortably when Mr. Houdini was just nervous around me. He's six months older than me. We've had the best conversations, laughing...smooth and comfortable discussions and spoken of everything from our exes to our kids to sex....and everything else you can imagine. Nothing is off the table and neither of us feel the need to game play. The chemistry based on personality alone is unbelievable. I have the feeling that we are going to get along very well, I think I may have gotten lucky and found a friend that will probably lead to a lot of wonderful others things. I'll have to let you know how it goes. I think I'm done with younger men!
Kate Posted June 27, 2006 Posted June 27, 2006 and thanks for your post! i just posted about a 24 yr old i'm dating...i'm 27. JUST DOESN'T WORK...does it!? i feel like i am missing a huge piece of life experience and teaching too much. i crapped all over him in my rage of feeling like something is missing and it ruined everything. what kind of men were you dating before? how much younger? it's the worst, not to mention i have a very very old soul. i need a 35-40 yr old. if you have any advice on what i should do...how i should break up...please let me know! if not, enjoy.
Author Stunner Posted June 27, 2006 Author Posted June 27, 2006 Oh, boy...I'm pretty direct. To answer some of your questions...I am 37 and haven't dated for seven years. I met a very sweet, honest, adorable nice guy who happened to be flippin hot who had the hots for me. Long story short...he disappeared. I'm a dual business owner/professional/mom/confident type and I think I scared him away. He couldn't handle my directness or my lack of needing rescue I guess...never had the balls to call me. SO, new guy is 38, just a few months older and it is awesome! The level of communication is so different, so open...much more suited to what I want. As far as how to break up...I can only tell you what I would do, which might not be the best situation for you. I would just tell him that there is something missing that is not fulfilled by the relationship you have. That you feel you need something different. You could always fall back on the 'it's not you, it's me' thing. I would be as gentle but as firm as possible if you are really ready to end it. Before my crappy marriage I dated older men...usually 7-10 years older and was very comfortable with it. I am an old soul too and have a lot of life experience and responsibility. Good luck, and please let us know what happens.
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted June 27, 2006 Posted June 27, 2006 Good luck Stunner! I am into month2 with a guy I met online and so far so good too (I'm 40, he's 39). I like that better than the 45yr old OLD men I was dating last year haha. Kate, why not tell him gently that you think your relationship has run its course and that your thinking of your long-term future and that he doesn't fit into your picture of where you want to be. This way it makes it about you and you're not faulting him for anything.
ronnieromance Posted June 27, 2006 Posted June 27, 2006 I like you guys' style. I'm feel your pain about age differences. I have to be pretty discriminating about the emails I follow up on webdate. SOme of the girls in their early 20s would have been great for me then...But I have different wants and needs now. -R-
Author Stunner Posted June 28, 2006 Author Posted June 28, 2006 Thanks, I have guys responding who are 25....it HAS to be the picture they are responding to. I think to myself, "what the hell does he think is going to happen?" Why can't they get girls their own age? I don't get it.... I'll update you all on what happens...we are meeting tomorrow morning. I'm so excited!
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