Guest Posted June 26, 2006 Posted June 26, 2006 When someone acts like this what does it mean? *One minute they are nice, then a few days later they are angry acting, taking things out on you and blaming you for things you haven't said/done *When you ask them why or whats wrong, no matter how you say it, they get defensive. * They call you names to your face, and when you are talking with friends and family. *They tell you they don't know why they married you. *They tell you you are insecure and jealous even though you're not and never have been or even shown signs of that kind of thing. *They occasionally will push, slap, and say really mean things to you and even infront of the kids. * They will be mean one minute...then the next few days tell you that they are sorry and they they will change. Stays that way for maybe a week if that, then they go right back to being the way they were before. *Wont go get help and when you ask about counseling together, they say they don't have the problem you do.
JadeStar Posted June 27, 2006 Posted June 27, 2006 I would say it means they have anger/control issues that needs to be delt with. JMO. Jade
binevrywear Posted June 28, 2006 Posted June 28, 2006 You should go to psychforums.com and look up Borderline Personality Disorder and check out the forums on that subject. Or do a google search. Could otherwise be Bipolar Disorder. Get digging, and soon. Obviously, I'm no expert, but this person is seriously screwed up and you would be advised to get help for YOURSELF if they don't want to get some on their own. You will end up just as screwed up as they are if you continue in this clearly abusive relationship. Good luck.
Spiderman Posted June 28, 2006 Posted June 28, 2006 When someone acts like this what does it mean? *One minute they are nice, then a few days later they are angry acting, taking things out on you and blaming you for things you haven't said/done *When you ask them why or whats wrong, no matter how you say it, they get defensive. * They call you names to your face, and when you are talking with friends and family. *They tell you they don't know why they married you. *They tell you you are insecure and jealous even though you're not and never have been or even shown signs of that kind of thing. *They occasionally will push, slap, and say really mean things to you and even infront of the kids. * They will be mean one minute...then the next few days tell you that they are sorry and they they will change. Stays that way for maybe a week if that, then they go right back to being the way they were before. *Wont go get help and when you ask about counseling together, they say they don't have the problem you do. OMG - This is a word for word description of my Ex! ( note the ex ) She had, and still does have, some serious issues. These may be related to the loss of several friends and family, may be due to some past bad experience, who knows? She never really opened up to me, thus making the relationship impossible and unbearable. In the end I had to walk away for own sanity and peace of mind. There were also children involved, which made it doubly hard to leave, but to which I also didn't feel an obligation for their sanity. I'm quite a placid chap by nature but she seemed to have the knack of winding me up like no other. She pushed me to do things and act in a way completely out of character. I don’t wish to pry, but is there anything that you feel would cause your partner to act in this manner? Loss of a family member or a recent change in circumstance maybe? Have they always acted in this way or is it a recent change?
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