Roarz Posted June 26, 2006 Posted June 26, 2006 So I guess I'll get to the short of it...my ex is the one who broke up with me, she's 18, I'm 20. It's been 9 months almost, during which she had another bf for 4 months who just broke up with her about a month and a half ago. We got into a huge fight a few months after breaking up by trying to "be just friends" (her fault completely) in which we didnt speak for about 5 months (in which she had her bf to keep her company). So anyway, out of the blue this weekend she texts me on friday asking me what I'm doing that night. Now we have hung out only a couple of times after our big gap of NC and it was in a group setting, so nothing really to get from there, even though she was really flirty then. But this time it was just us 2 going out to eat and to the movies. Of course I was really excited since I am still in love with her and I'm thinking that maybe she is trying to get back with me, what with all the flirting before. So the night comes and I play it cool and we go see the movie. The whole night she is super flirty; hitting me on the arm, laughing at everything I say, and even in the theatre she was tickling me with both hands (initiated by her). She also said that before was just a phase and kept telling me how she isn't so highstrung now and how much nicer she is, like she's trying to prove to ME something. When walking back to my car she stops and starts writing on the fogged back window, like she's stalling for something (I read girls do this when they want to be kissed but could be just bs). Unfortunately during the movie the projector breaks down so we get free tickets and have to come back the next night together. So we do and it's the same great chemistry, flirty attitude, this time on both sides. At the end of the night I realized I didn't want to go the whole summer stressed out wondering if this is real or just another one of her games, so I flat out ask her if she still has feelings for me, and she tells me she just wanted us to be friends. I asked her about the flirty stuff and she said it wasn't meant to be that. I told her that I can't be friends with her still because I want more and if she isn't going to at least try then I'd rather have nothing at all. At the end I said I might call her someday if I ever could and all I got was "You better". So I guess I came here to ask...did I screw up a possible second chance by jumping the gun too early, or did I save myself a lot of stress by skipping to the same response weeks ahead of time? I kind of feel like I did the right thing, but kind of not. I mean I don't know how else to interpet full hands on tickling other than "Hey I like you more than a friend" (especially since it's only the 3rd time we've seen each other in 6 months) and I don't see how she thought I would think otherwise. So tell me, is this girl playing games or do I just suck *at* the game?
Pantero Posted June 26, 2006 Posted June 26, 2006 I probably would've done the same in your situation. I mean, why play games? I don't have time for that garbage.
Diver012 Posted June 26, 2006 Posted June 26, 2006 Seems like a lot of baggage here. I think you absolutely did the right thing considering your feelings for her.
Author Roarz Posted June 26, 2006 Author Posted June 26, 2006 Yeah I know I did the right thing for my own sanity but at the same time I guess I feel regret at never knowing if it would have turned into something had I just waited to see how it played out...I mean all those signs, you don't do that with just friends, unless you're just trying to string someone along like a bitch...I know that's probably what it was all along. I probably knew it subconciously before I even accepted the invitiation..but what can I say, she has a vicious hold on my heart. I'm sure most of you here can understand the lack of rationale that comes from that .
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