I'm In Love with My Best Guy Friend!

[Jokat1423]

First Off, Hi!

I'm new to this site and need some serious advice!

I'll start at the begining cause it's a long story. I am 25 years old and have been friends with this guy for about 15 years. When I was in college I started dating one of his best friends. we dated for about a year when we decided to experiment with a threesome. You guessed it, my guy friend ended up being the other guy. From there everything started going wrong. My best guy friend and I fell hard for one another and we continued to cheat on my BF for about 6 months at which time I got pregnant and we cooled things off. My BF and I broke up just a few weeks before I found out I was pregnant. When he found out he wouldn't even speak to me. At the time I didn't blame him cause I had cheated and even my guy friend was wondering if this baby could be his and not my BF. Anyways, I had nothing to do with my BF for the entire pregnacy cause after him making my life a living hell for cheating I discovered he had been cheating on me with several woman the whole time too!! Through the whole pregnancy my best guy friend was my life saver. He was always there to lean on and we became even closer as a result.

After my son was born, my ex and I decided to put the past behind us and work things out for the sake of our child (who we now knew without a doubt was his). We stayed together for another year and 9 months. We even got engaged! Everything seemed to be going well, and my best bud stayed friends with us, but distanced hisself from us a bit cause of our feeling for one another.

My ex and I moved away and things seemed really good until one day he came home from work and said, "I think you and (our son) should leave." Just like that with no explanation whatsoever! So, heartbroken I packed up and came home to my parents. About a week later I found out from my best bud that my fiance had been cheating on my with a girl he worked with who happened to be our landlords daughter!! I was devistated cause I had not cheated on him and we seemed really happy. This breakup came out of nowhere.

Well, needless to say my best bud and I got super close but never slept together. Through him I met another friend of his who was single and my best bud was convinced that we'd make a great couple. So, after a few months we hooked up and things seemed really good. Six months later we got engaged and 6 months after that we got married.

Now we've been married for almost 2 years. After being married for about 3 months I fell pregnant again. We were so happy! It's what the two of us wanted more than anything in the world. But it wasn't to be and I had a misscarriage after 3 months. We were devistated.

After that nothing seemed the same. My husband drifted away from me to the point that we hardly ever talked and as much as I tried he wouldn't show me any sort of affection except for the occasional intrest in sex. and I mean occasional, like once every 2 or 3 months!! Needless to say my best friend and I grew closed over time and about 8 months after my misscarriage we started sleeping together again occasionally. Now, don't automatically assume I'm a slut cause really, the sex meant nothing compaired to the emotional support he provides me.

I hate to say it cause I know it's not right to cheat but he's my soul mate. We both love each other more than anything in this world and he's been more of a father to my son than even his father.

My best friend has never, ever been with another woman besides me and he has no intentions of ever being with anyone else. he talks to me, and I mean really talks to me. he cares deeply about my feelings and would probably do anything in the world for me. In all these years he's never up until about 3 weeks ago asked me to leave a relationship for him or nothing and when he did finally ask the question he wouldn't let me answer it.

Now that you've heard my story, please help me sort this all out. I love my husband. But more like I should love a best friend and I love my best friend the way I should love my husband. My husband is not stupid or blind. He knows how the two of us feel about one another but says that's ok. Not the cheating but the feelings. My husband is a very kind person and would probably forgive me anything but emotionally he's very withdrawn and blames it on lack of affection towards me on not knowing how to show it cause he grew up with none.

My in laws make my life a living hell cause we live in a very small rural community and they know about my super close friendship with my guy friend. My guy friends parents love me to death and would probably do anything to see us together but this situation has escalated to the point that we don't know what to do.

anyways, I could go on and on with story after story but with what I've told I'd like some advice.

Thanks for reading.

[Bryanp]

Does your current husband know that you are sleeping with your best friend? Why didn't your best friend say something to you when you returned instead of setting you up with another guy and encouraging you to marry him. Your best friend then decides to start sleeping with you after you marry him? What the hell is wrong with this guy?

 

I think your second marriage was doomed from the start because your best friend was always an integral part of your life during your marriage. You should be working and spending time with your husband instead of sleeping with your best friend. If you cannot be faithful to your husband which you have shown then you need to leave the marriage. How would you feel if your current husband was doing to you what you are doing to him? Again does your current husband know what you are doing? Does he accept that you are sleeping with your best friend. If he does not know then you need to tell your husband and allow him the opportunity to decide what he wishes to with his life and what to do with a wife who has no problem sleeping with her best male friend behind her husband's back.

[Sup]

If he does Divorce you, DON'T try to take him for ANY money. That's low