Guest Posted June 26, 2006 Posted June 26, 2006 i was with my boyfriend for 3 1/2 years and he cheated and called me names and he had a drug problem i put so much effort in the relationship hoping i meant enough to him that he would change and he never did i threw him out this morning and i am so lonely and hurt i dont know what to do i know my life will be so much better off with out him but i am scared to be lonely sometimes i feel it would be better to deal with him that to be lonely someone please give me some good advise i really need to know how to deal.
Tony T Posted June 26, 2006 Posted June 26, 2006 The absolute, most serious case of solicitude...the more intense amount of loneliness that could ever be thrust upon a human being is ONLY a very small fraction as bad as your life would be and the loneliness you would feel staying with the butthole who is now out of your life. You need to take time to heal and to look into your soul to find out why you would stay with such a jerk for that length of time. You will find someone in the future and if you straighten out the issues that attracted you to the jerk the new person will be a whole lot more suited to you. There are lots of sites on the Internet that offer excellent tips on how to let go and handle grief. There's also a lot of information on how to keep from getting into abusive relationships. Use a good search engine and read away. Whatever you do, NEVER, EVER stay in an abusive relationship because you think somebody will change. They NEVER, EVER do!!! All the changing in the world wouldn't do you anygood if you are six feet under. 1
Brittanyjean06 Posted June 26, 2006 Posted June 26, 2006 i was with my boyfriend for 3 1/2 years and he cheated and called me names and he had a drug problem i put so much effort in the relationship hoping i meant enough to him that he would change and he never did i threw him out this morning and i am so lonely and hurt i dont know what to do i know my life will be so much better off with out him but i am scared to be lonely sometimes i feel it would be better to deal with him that to be lonely someone please give me some good advise i really need to know how to deal. He cheated. He had a drug problem. and he called you names. thats all you need to look at and I can relate to you very much. Tell your self that your going to get through this and that there are people who lose people who are 10x better than your ex. If this was your first love, than I nkow how that feels and it hurts really really really badly. Try to think ahead, think about the person you will have one day who will treat you so good. This a**h*** isn't worth the pain your enduring and I wish i could tell my self that to. Get some books on break ups, they help a whole alot! and never feel ashamed to talk about this for a while. Reamber your not the only one going through this! Just go with the flow of life and know that it is possible to love again, and if you want to love again you have to let go of this creep! If it looks like a duck sounds like a duck It is a duck, and they won't change...trust me.
angieal Posted June 26, 2006 Posted June 26, 2006 Thanks so much for the advise my family tells me things like that all the time but when i take him back they are fine with that it is really good to get another persons opinion. i know i can do it and i know i deserve better thanks so much.
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