indigofool Posted June 25, 2006 Posted June 25, 2006 Okay, So I've had a crush on this friend for proabably about 5 yrs now. I just didn't know it till last year, and only admitted out loud this yr. The thing is, is that it is painfully clear to me that I stand absolutely no chance. This 'crush' been squashed time and time again and always springs back again. I think about him everyday. I just need to get over him- but I don't know how. Please help. Thanks
miranda beverly Posted June 26, 2006 Posted June 26, 2006 Well, the only way to really get over someone is to not have any contact with them and move on to someone else! I have never, ever gotten over anyone until I stopped talking to them / seeing them and eventually just found someone else. I have never had a period in my life that I didn't have strong feelings for someone. Which is sort of weird now that I think about it. But I was never able to get over a person without falling for someone else and sort of replacing them. It is hard, I wont lie. Have you come right out and told him how you felt yet?
angieal Posted June 26, 2006 Posted June 26, 2006 that is good advise and it is also true that you can get over someone easy when you find someone else, but how do you know if you really like this other person or if it is just a rebound. i am scared if i move on i will be with this new guy for the wrong reason.
Pink Amulet Posted June 26, 2006 Posted June 26, 2006 Why is you think you stand no chance? This man might feel the same? If these feelings are preventing you from finding someone else. I would say you need to spend much less time with him. You may be too distracted by your affections for him to see all the men who are vying for your attention!!!
Author indigofool Posted June 27, 2006 Author Posted June 27, 2006 This guy is totally in love with someonelse and I presume is blissfully unaware. Because of the history between us I guess that I would much rather just forfeit the arkwardness of telling him and just fade him out. I have tried time and time again to fade him out of my life, and I just get weak and reply a text or something, convincing myself it totally platonic on my half. And what is worse is that when I'm not with him I think about him constantly without even realising. Imagining how we would be if we were together. It is really pathetic, I know.
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