He cancelled on me last minute, Grrrrr

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We had plans to have an afternoon movie marathon at my appartment, and I, being the sap that I am, was really looking forward to spending some quality couch time with him watching romantic movies.

I was at a lunch a few hours beforehand, which i would leave early, so we would have enough time to watch a few films. He even called me at 1 to confirm, and told me to call him as soon as i got out so he could come over.

I was really enjoying the lunch, had met some great people, and was sad to leave before dessert- but it was worth it, to see him.

 

I called him at 3 when i was on my way back in the rain, after making an embarassingly early exit and making my apologies to the hostess.

And guess what? when i called, he sounded incredibly guilty and nervous, and starting sputtering out this story about how he had forgotten that his friends were coming in from out of town to watch a soccer match, had arrived just after he spoke with me at 1, and that he couldnt make it. I, ofcourse, was pissed off to no end, but instead played it cool, icily said it was ok, but that i wished he would have called earlier, before my untimely and rude departure from the luncheon. He was very appologetic, and asked if we could reschedule for tomorrow, whereupon i said i wasnt sure, and had to check later. He then said he would call me to "chat" tonight.

 

I have no doubt he knew i was angry; but what should i do now? I am still very very mad that he cancelled on me last minute, and i want him to know that he can't treat me this way, especially since we've only been dating a couple of weeks. However, I still really really like him, and I don't want to come across as a nag, and sound as if my whole day was ruined because he couldn't hang out with me.

I've considered several options,

1 I yell at him

2 I give him the cold shoulder, refusing to see him tomorrow, acting as if I'm busy, or even cancelling on him the last minute

3 I act as if nothing is wrong, am very warm and rosy when he calls later and state that i had a lovely time without him

 

Your opinions are greatly appreciated!!

[litfish]

I would just have an adult confrontation. Let him know that it was an inconvenience to you, and that you absolutely will not accept any more last minute cancellations. Then sweep it under the rug. If he does it again, then take it a bit more seriously. Everyone deserves a second chance.