misslady7 Posted June 25, 2006 Posted June 25, 2006 My boyfriend asks me to come over to his house which was fine. Right now as I type this thread he's gambling with his friends. He's been doing this since earlier this afternoon. Now he always tells me that I complain too much so I try to be understanding and not complain but it's like he totally forgets that I am even here. He always does this to me if he's not gambling, he's playing video games, or he will get up and go somewhere and leave me here bored with absolutely nothing to do but watch tv or come onto the computer. It's not fair, it's like "what about me". I tried talking to him about it and he claims that he will be more understanding, and that seems to last only for a moment then he goes right back to doing this again. When it comes to this relationship I try really hard to understand him and not get upset over certain things, however there are so many things that bother me and he feels that I shouldn't be bothered. It's like he totally disregards the fact that some things bother me. He does things that he thinks is okay like go onto this website to talk to different girls, including all of the things I listed above. It's so much more. Sometimes I just want to leave my cell phone somewhere and escape since that's his only way to contact me when I am not at work. Guys please help me.
justagirliegirl Posted June 25, 2006 Posted June 25, 2006 Dump him. You are allowing this guy to disrespect you.
tearful_soul22 Posted June 25, 2006 Posted June 25, 2006 You should never allow this person to do this to you. Seems like he's up to no good. You deserve someone who will treat you with fairness, kindness, and respect. Lose the guy and move on. Good luck and take care!
lostinyouth Posted June 27, 2006 Posted June 27, 2006 If you want to get out when there is nothing to do at home, do just that. If he is not meeting your needs, don't meet his. If you are communicating to him how he make's you feel and he does these things anyway, what are you doing with him?
norajane Posted June 27, 2006 Posted June 27, 2006 He's being very rude, and you are allowing it to continue. Next time he ignores you, just tell him you're leaving to go out and do something fun and LEAVE. Keep doing that, and he'll start to understand this is important to you. If he doesn't, dump him.
j.carsey Posted June 27, 2006 Posted June 27, 2006 Now he always tells me that I complain too much so I try to be understanding and not complain but it's like he totally forgets that I am even here. He always does this to me if he's not gambling, he's playing video games, or he will get up and go somewhere and leave me here bored with absolutely nothing to do but watch tv or come onto the computer. It's not fair, it's like "what about me". I tried talking to him about it and he claims that he will be more understanding, and that seems to last only for a moment then he goes right back to doing this again. Not good. That's no way for a boyfriend (or girlfriend) to act. You can find plenty of other guys who respect you more and care about your feelings. We can only give advice based on what you write here, but if this kind of thing happens in a routine way and looking objectively at it, you really think he does not care about your feelings then it's pretty simple isn't it, break up
Walk Posted June 27, 2006 Posted June 27, 2006 I'm wondering why you feel you have to sit home and be bored while he's doing stuff? Are there people you could hang out with, other things you could do that would get you out of the house more often? I agree that your bf should be concerned about things that are bothering you, and a lot of his actions are down right inconsiderate and rude. But I do know that our partners aren't our entertainment facilitators. If you want to keep him interested, then you have to be interesting. Not saying you aren't now, but show him you are. Either he's forgotten, or the two of you have slipped into such a routine that it's become... boring. To both of you. I would suggest that you start going out, or finding your own enjoyment in other places than home. Go out with friends, go shopping, go see a movie. Take up a hobby, or join a club, take a class, anything. something that will get you out and back into the real world. It'll give you a better quality of life, and might be enough of a kick in your bf's head to get him to wake up to how he's treating you. Don't waste your life waiting for him to be available. You don't enjoy sitting around bored and waiting on him, so why continue doing it? You know he's not going to be any more interested in changing his ways if you keep doing exactly as you are. So change what you are doing. Your life is not going to get any better if you continue down the same path. You willl never be able to get back those days that were wasted being bored and unhappy. Choose a different path.
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