Brittanyjean06 Posted June 25, 2006 Posted June 25, 2006 I just read a thread and replied to it of course. Her boyfriend had degraded her infront of family and friends, and than told her horrible things. I have had an ex do this, humiliate me infront of others, put me down constantly, never really giving me any compliments. One day It was like you don't need a job your young, next day it was like ARE you just going to live off your parents money ( in a cruel voice ) What goes through guys heads when doing this, the fact that he was sociopathic ( I say) Plays a big role in his behaviour Having not a conscience but a power hungrey " heart " Why do these people cause the relationship to be a push and pull? Why are they so crazy.
Outcast Posted June 25, 2006 Posted June 25, 2006 I saw a show on sociopaths. Seems there are a lot more of them than we realize - I've seen 2%, 4%, and 5% of the population quoted - that's a LOT of people!!! It may not be sociopathy, though. He could be a narcissist or have any one of a number of disorders. If you read the stats, you'd be shocked at how few completely healthy people there are!
Author Brittanyjean06 Posted June 25, 2006 Author Posted June 25, 2006 I can see us all having some of the characteristics of a sociopath/ Narcisist.. But do we lack empathy? No certainly not. I meen my ex just had so many characterstics of a sociopath more so than a narcisist. But I wonder if these people ever get over themselves lol
Outcast Posted June 25, 2006 Posted June 25, 2006 Disorders aren't collections of irregular behaviours. They are collections of regular behaviours taken to a point where they impact the lives of the sufferers or the people around them. Which is why you keep hearing people say things like what you said about 'everybody does X sometimes'. Maybe they do but not to the point where it's considered a disorder.
Stunner Posted June 25, 2006 Posted June 25, 2006 I recently left a verbally abusive/Narcissist.... He's been in therapy for five months and still thinks we had a 'communication' problem. The real problem, if I tried to communicate with him I was always wrong then he would spend the next five or so hours screaming and yelling at me about all the reasons I'm a lousy wife, lousy mom, etc. If I started to get upset after all this time, I was 'sniveling' or 'didn't care about our relationship enough to listen'. When I suffered from PTSD from it and had memory loss, 'I didn't care enough about him to pay attention.' Guys (and girls) like this are toxic and the best option IMO, is to leave. You can't fix them or make them better...it's their problem they project onto their spouses/SO's because they are so insecure underneath all the feather puffing.
Diver012 Posted June 25, 2006 Posted June 25, 2006 I cant help but wonder if my Ex didnt have a taste of this. I have a list about a page and a half long of all the complaints I started receiving out of knowhere...I got my entire life criticised from the way I stand, to the way I drive, eat, sleep, work. Apparently I never listened to her... Or maybe I have a problem?
Stunner Posted June 25, 2006 Posted June 25, 2006 It may be worth looking into...if for nothing else helping you get a grip on what happened. The picky things you mentioned like complaining on the way you stand, sleep, eat...that rings true. None of us could do anything right. Put the dishes in the dishwasher the right way....I could go on and on. If you do a search on Narcissism/Verbal Abuse...I bet you can come up with a lot of info. that might help give you some information on character traits and symptoms.
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