Geoffrey Posted June 25, 2006 Posted June 25, 2006 Hey there, I haven't posted in some time, but thought I'd give you an update...if you recall, I was unceremoniously dumped by my alcoholic, depressed ex-GF last December....and I thought I would let you know that things have GREATLY improved for me in the last seven months....more than I ever could have hoped for. For those of you who remember me, I was quite a mess after that ordeal. There is still some work to do, however. It took some time, but I did eventually get over losing her. I had one other "transitional" relationship in the meantime, but I decided to end it after two months because I wasn't prepared to completely trust the opposite sex (I still don't) and it wasn't fair to the other person to carry that into the relationship. I might not EVER trust another woman again, but I am OK with that for now. Staying single works for me! I now have a better job than I ever had, I'm doing work for the war effort in Iraq, working on surveillance technology that could potentially save many American lives from IEDs, making more $$ than I EVER made in my life...I go back and forth to Florida every other week for work, hit the beach at every opportunity, and enjoy the scenery. I have a new car, a new life, many new friends, and I am going to start working on getting my MBA in the fall. Keep working on YOU....turn yourself into such a great package with so much to offer that you have the right to refuse ANYBODY who pursues you in a relationship and not feel guilty about it. I'm sorry if this is coming off as arrogant....but NOBODY can have me, and I like it the way it is. You can do this....you can recover and move on....happiness does return, and depression and loneliness will flee if you work on YOU with all due diligence. Hope this note finds you well. Best regards, Geoffrey
Stunner Posted June 25, 2006 Posted June 25, 2006 Good for you moving forward. I went through a short phase just prior to and after I left my ex husband where I felt the same way. I just didn't want to date ANYONE. I had the biggest chip...I just didn't verbablize it. I was always polite to men who asked but I just was perfectly happy being on my own...now I find I am ready for male companionship but with someone mature and secure in himself. Someone who can handle me...lol. In time you may find you are ready....it just kind of pops up one day. Not a sick longing need but just a feeling of contentment and that it is ok....just take it slow when that time comes for you. Congrats on such a wonderful opportunity...it sounds like a new life has opened up for you!!!
Author Geoffrey Posted June 25, 2006 Author Posted June 25, 2006 Thanks, Stunner, for your kind words. Yes, I do suffer from chipped shoulders, and I must be careful not to project that....here or anywhere else...I do have several female friends and I do enjoy feminine company, I will not deny that. But believe me, the bar is set pretty high right now....
Pantero Posted June 25, 2006 Posted June 25, 2006 Great post, Geoffery. I think we need more guys like you to come back after a few months and show some of us going through the hard times now that there indeed is a light at the end of the tunnel. And that sticking things out and sticking to your guns will be all worth it in the end. Time reveals all mysteries and heals all wounds. Your post shows me that being patient has it's rewards. Thanks for the post.
Author Geoffrey Posted June 25, 2006 Author Posted June 25, 2006 Thanks, Pantero, for your encouragement. One thing I kept telling myself over and over, "it will not always be like this" and "what would my life look like if this pain was no longer a factor?" and then structure your efforts to get towards making that picture a reality. Move the ball down the field a little more each day. This afternoon, I am taking inventory of my cooking spices (I used to have about 25 different ones, but the ex-GF copped all but 5 of them) cuz i like to cook for people, and when inspiration strikes, I must be ready! BTW....the last time I had contact with my ex-GF...she had the most nasty, condescending, and arrogant tone with me....which made me GLAD I am not in that (or any other) relationship right now!! I am a free man, and freedom is indeed under-rated! Best regards, Geoffrey PS - will advise when dinner is ready!
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