Author Thursday_le Posted June 26, 2006 Author Posted June 26, 2006 Is this a mistake by posting this blog on my myspace? Title: Hmmm..... Current Mood : Thankful Now that im sane and can think normally, I think I can say that I really do believe that if you let it go and it comes back its yours forever, I just dont want to be forgotten. Currently making myself a better person for me.
crazy_grl Posted June 26, 2006 Posted June 26, 2006 Nah, don't post it. All that does is tell her that you're wanting her back (whether or not you're talking about now or years from now), and when someone has asked for space, that's not a good thing to do. It puts pressure on them.
MarnieGirl Posted June 26, 2006 Posted June 26, 2006 yeah like..."i'm breeeezy..." *anyone use to watch friends?*
crazy_grl Posted June 26, 2006 Posted June 26, 2006 Also, you don't need to do anything to remind her of you. She's not going to forget you. I remember all the guys that I dated, even when we were together less than a month. You were together nearly 2 years. Don't worry about being forgotten. That's not going to happen. Trying to remind her of you is only going to irritate her. Some things I think you may need to know to prepare for what might come: From what you've said, it sounds like she's interested in going out, meeting new people, and experiencing new things. In fact she may have started drinking and doing things you thought she'd never do. You should be prepared for that, and if you find out she's done those things, don't get upset with her or lecture her about them. You have to remember that what she does is her own decision to make. If you get upset with her or try to control what she does, it'll drive her further away.
Author Thursday_le Posted June 27, 2006 Author Posted June 27, 2006 It doesnt matter to me...I know she wants to do what she wants to do. Ill forgive her. If I ever get the chance to get back together with her I wont ask what she did. Ill just be happy shes back.
Author Thursday_le Posted June 27, 2006 Author Posted June 27, 2006 June 23, 2006: Well this is old as s***....I dont want to meet anyone. I found a girl that fit my description above but lost her along the way. I understand things happen for a reason, so Im done cryin. Only Time, Faith, and some Luck will change things in the future. Im not going to wait damnit. IM NOT A f***IN DOORMAT! Sometimes the Hardest Thing and the Right thing are the Same . Time to make myself a better person. That is my only blog....Should I delete this too?
MarnieGirl Posted June 27, 2006 Posted June 27, 2006 June 23, 2006: Well this is old as s***....I dont want to meet anyone. I found a girl that fit my description above but lost her along the way. I understand things happen for a reason, so Im done cryin. Only Time, Faith, and some Luck will change things in the future. Im not going to wait damnit. IM NOT A f***IN DOORMAT! Sometimes the Hardest Thing and the Right thing are the Same . Time to make myself a better person. That is my only blog....Should I delete this too? yes, although it won't matter if she already read it.
Author Thursday_le Posted June 28, 2006 Author Posted June 28, 2006 I just deleted my myspace...that way I have no reason to look and check hers out.Anyone have any thoughts about what I did?
crazy_grl Posted June 28, 2006 Posted June 28, 2006 I just deleted my myspace...that way I have no reason to look and check hers out.Anyone have any thoughts about what I did? If that's what you felt like you needed to do, then that's fine as long as you weren't doing it to get her to call you. Now try to make sure you don't go check hers.
Author Thursday_le Posted June 28, 2006 Author Posted June 28, 2006 I dont ever use AIM...but she knows my sn. When should ( if ever ) I pop on there. Maybe she may msg me. But I wont msg her. Im thinking it would be easier for her to msg me than to talk over the phone....But then again I think even using AIM is a bad idea. I should let her come to me right? IM CONFUSED!!!
crazy_grl Posted June 28, 2006 Posted June 28, 2006 If you don't go on now, then don't go on just so that she can contact you. If she wants to get in touch with you, she will. You don't have to go out of your way to make it easy for her. What's likely to happen is that you'll go on AIM and see her on too. You'll start hoping she'll contact you. Then after about 10 minutes of her not messaging you, maybe 20 depending on how patient you are, you'll want to contact her and end up rationalizing to yourself that it couldn't really be so bad to just send her a message. Then she may be rude to you or she may be friendly. If she's rude, you get your feelings hurt. If she's friendly, you'll start yourself wondering whether her friendliness might mean you have another shot or whether she was just being nice because you talked to her. Or something to that extent. Save yourself the headache and don't get on AIM.
Author Thursday_le Posted June 28, 2006 Author Posted June 28, 2006 Im pathetic...i made a different name on AIM and added her....just to read her away msg. f***!! I love her to death. I need a way to make her know Im fine without her. I read a huge thread on it. Make her feel crappy cause I seem like im doing fine again without her. Hopeing she gets feelings again and tries to contact me. I wont answer the first time and wait again untill she calls....I dont know. I need a plan. I cant just sit hear and not be prepared. Crazygrl can u help me...or anyone? Crazy_grl...could I talk to you on my new AIM sn? since your the only one posting anymore.
crazy_grl Posted June 28, 2006 Posted June 28, 2006 Sorry man, I can't get on AIM. I don't have a sn and I can't use it at work. The best advice I can give you is to do your best to stop thinking about her. I know there's lots of advice on how you can trick a person into thinking that you're doing well without them and make them curious enough to check up on you, but you can only keep up an act for so long. You need to genuinely get to that place. I've had more than a few people dump me and then want me back, but not a single person has ever tried to get me back when I was still hung up on them. I know you probably feel like she left a huge hole inside you and right now you're trying to fill it up by getting her back. But you need to start finding other ways to fill it. Right now, if you feel like you need to talk to her, write out whatever you have to say but don't send it to her. Spend as much time as you can getting out and being with your friends.
Author Thursday_le Posted June 28, 2006 Author Posted June 28, 2006 thx crazygrl. You are so much of a help to me. I have to decided to delete AIM as I did with myspace. Im not touching myspace ever again. Everytime I get on the computer I check this and her myspace. Sometimes looking at her myspace made me feel like s***...other times it made me feel confused or slightly releaved. I spoke with my mom a few mins ago and she said that my ex needs to go threw some experiences and when she gets to the point where things are s***ty again in her mind, she may try to get a hold of me. I have a very very strong feeling she will call me someday. I know that someday she will look past all the little things I didnt do right or whatever. I have 100% confidence that this is definatly not the end of our relationship. My mom said that she just doesnt want to be tied down and feel like shes missing out on things. I never said she couldnt do anything but for some reason she felt as if she couldnt do those things because I maybe was too needy. We only saw each other on the weekends. So I figured that she could do whatever during the week. Our main day was sunday. Maybe it became too much of a rutine( sry cant spell ). Today is the day ill stop counting how long we've had NC. Its doing more damage than good to me. I still say that " Im going to marry that girl someday" but hopefully then it will be " Im going to marry that woman someday". She has growing left to do. Her mother said so too. I love her parents and they told me that they were afraid that this would happen. Well it did , and the way I look at it...is that, I never regret anything with the relationship. Besides the little dumb things I did. I loved her 100%. And always will. I dont want to get serious with another girl because I know that she will end up getting hurt. I just know that things will work out someday. Just not anytime soon. My mom says maybe in 1 or 2 years. Thats a really f***in long ass time. Lots or things will change but I will still have a place for her in my heart. You cant love someone the way we did and just leave it at that. I must stress that this was 100% on both sides up untill you know. We really didnt have problems. And maybe that was the bad thing. My mom says that right now, I feel like crap and miss her love but she doesnt even think about me anymore. She may care about me and hope that I am safe and all but she doesnt think about making the relationship work again. Only time will change her mind. When she gets to another hard time...maybe she will call me. It sucks that this part of my life has to end. I wish I could just cry forever about it...but then I realize that its not worth it. I know we have a future together someday. Just wish god could tell me or give me a hint. I really wish this never happend. But the things that make me still remain with hope are: 1. She told me she still loves me. ( I know she just said that to make me feel better ) 2. She told me " You know that saying that it you let it go and it comes back, Its yours forever" 3. She never ruled out the possibility of something again someday. 4. She never said that she didnt want to talk to me ever again. 5. Her 30 some yrs. old half-sister got back with her now husband after over a year. ( dont know the details, I wish I could ask her mom but...NC!!) 6. She sang one of our favorite songs to me the last time we talked. "wonderwall" by oasis. And told me Im her Wonderwall...with the most sincerity. 7. The last time I talked to her mother Me: I hope this isnt the last time I see you. Her Mom: Dont worry hun, Ill see you soon. ( I know shes just trying to make me feel better...but I know that I passed her / what I want my daughter to be with / test. ) So yeah. Thx Crazygrl and everyone else help me make this , what seemed like a terrible life ending situation, so much easier and so much less painful. I wish everyone the best and I will continue to update my page over the next ...however long. Just not 12 times a day. Crazygrl I owe you a lot. Expecially if all this pays off in the end and I really do marry her. I know this is a test...And I have to be strong. I can do this. Thx to all of you on here. A perfect example of what not to do....My New Manager at work. He dated this girl for 4 years...Ages 19 - 23. They almost had a kid. Crazy stuff. And now he just keeps calling her and calling her and bugging, and bugging. She currently has a new b/f that she told him that she has feelings for. He flipped and had an anxiety attack and didnt sleep for 3 days, almost killing himself from lack of sleep. He continues to sing depressing songs and call her. The guy is kool but as far as that goes....I know Im a stronger person than that. Im sorry but no person should ever make you crazy like that. I mean they did almost have a child together but, you have to let her go at some point. He should have done that a long time ago. They have been split for 7 months. So sadly thats what I dont want to be. Makes me more motivated actually. Thx everyone for showing love and all the things that make a person ready for a healthy relationship. Ill keep everyone posted...
crazy_grl Posted June 28, 2006 Posted June 28, 2006 Good luck, Thursday. I hope things work out for you. And keep in mind that there are plenty of other great girls out there too. Come back and post whenever you need to.
Author Thursday_le Posted June 29, 2006 Author Posted June 29, 2006 Yes there are plenty of other girls...but I know this one is special. I sound like im really not letting go...but I am.
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