too_nervous Posted June 24, 2006 Posted June 24, 2006 Right. This is an update to a thread i posted a while ago. Ill start again anyway. I met a very nice girl who works in a cafe just around the corner from where i work. After going in there for a while and chatting to her, i asked her out. She said yes,and i said i would sort something out and let her know. A few days later a got a text from her saying that i was'nt her type. Damn i thought, but never mind onwards and upwards as they say. The problem was, with her being so close to my workplace i did see her all the time, so cant really forget about her completely. Whenever we saw each other we always waved, smiled said hello, that sort of thing and i even gave her lifts home sometimes. Well, this has all been happening for the last couple of months and after many of my friends, family and some people from this website, i decided to text her the other day basiccally saying hi how are you and whats been happening. She did reply and beleive it or not we were talking via text from the early evening until midnight. We talked about loads of stuff (obviously) and i even ended up telling her how i feel about her. (i still do really like her). Anyway, i suggested going out and yet again she said yeah sounds cool. (considering that she said i wasnt her type, i find this wired). She said that the end of next week sounds cool but she would have to let me know exactly when because she has a few things planned. She said she would definately let me know aswell. I am now thinking weather or not i am wasting my time again and will she change her mind again? Is it possible for women to change there minds about a guy like this? What do you lot think i should do? Obviously i will wait to see if she is still ok with going out. Do you think she is teasing me? My thinking of it all is that she knows how i feel about her and so would of said something if she didnt feel something towards me. And wouldnt of been okay with going out if she was'nt interested. Am i right? Am i wired for asking her again? Please can i have all suggestions and comments. Daniel
binevrywear Posted June 24, 2006 Posted June 24, 2006 Man, she already told you that you weren't her type. What part of that don't you understand? A woman who is really interested in you would never have said that. She might not be playing with you. Maybe she was just bored and had nothing to do but send text messages that night. Maybe she just likes attention from men (do watch out if she mentions a lot of other guys... in fact, run away, run away!!!) Anyway, go out with her if you like, but don't get your hopes up.
Outcast Posted June 25, 2006 Posted June 25, 2006 Wait and see. Nobody here is a mind reader. We can't figure out what she's thinking. Find something else to busy yourself with while you wait.
gfto Posted June 26, 2006 Posted June 26, 2006 She said that the end of next week sounds cool but she would have to let me know exactly when because she has a few things planned. Women who are interested don't say this. She's setting up the cancellation. She already told you you're not her type, i.e., she isn't interested.
Max Overclock Posted June 26, 2006 Posted June 26, 2006 Daniel, Man, I know how hard it is to hear people say, "forget her" when you want badly in your heart for things to work out this time with her. The sad fact is though, you're likely a friend only to her now, and you may very likely never be any more than that to her. She expressed her feelings about the possibilities (or lack thereof) for you both going together as a couple. When a woman is attracted to a guy, there's often little she can do to stop herself from feeling that initial desire for him. When she doesn't feel it for you as a guy ... there's nothing you can say or do to her to fix that emotional disconnect she has. Women tend to be very emotions-based. Their first impulses often stick. If it doesn't work first, ferget it. Move on to find a woman who really does enjoy being around you as more than a friend. IMHO, I'd also not be a taxi, or texting companion to this girl any further. If you wave or say hi to her in the future, do it as a friend only, and expect no more from her than that. Just my $0.02. As Dennis Miller used to say ... "That's just my opinion. I could be wrong" Have a good one. Max
whichwayisup Posted June 26, 2006 Posted June 26, 2006 Yup, I agree. If a woman is really into you, she WILL make the time no matter what to be with you. Back off her for a little while and see what happens. Try to keep yourself busy and hangout with your buddies. Anytime you have urges to call her or email her, jump on LS and distract yourself. Post it here that way you don't contact her. If you don't hear from her (let's say 2 weeks) then you can decide to call her and find out what she thinks/feels or you can just not call her and go on with your life...
pippen_2k Posted June 26, 2006 Posted June 26, 2006 Your definatley no chance! Save myour phone credit and text messages on a girl who wants it
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