Guest Posted June 24, 2006 Posted June 24, 2006 I want to thank the posters who gave me some excellent advice After talking it over numerous times with my SO, he has decided to help approach the family 'intervention' style. Both of us will sit down with grandma and SO's sister (without niece present) to discuss the very serious risks to niece's health and well-being. We are both going to state, quite bluntly, that we cannot abide the endless stream of trash being fed to this child and that if we are witness to it we will intervene. By 'intervene' I mean we will say something, out loud, right then and there, about the inappropriateness of what's going on. No matter how embaressing it is for those involved. We will not sit by silently and watch her life being destroyed. We both decided we are willing to play the 'bad cop' role if we need to. I don't know how this will go down, but with SO on my side I think we may actually get the family to react...one way or another.
Outcast Posted June 24, 2006 Posted June 24, 2006 Congratulations! It's wonderful that your SO has agreed to do this and not worry about the family strife he said he worried about before. That little girl is very lucky to have an aunt and uncle on her side
RecordProducer Posted June 24, 2006 Posted June 24, 2006 with SO on my side I think we may actually get the family to react...one way or another.Why is it that people take men much more sriously than women? I've noticed this too.
MarnieGirl Posted June 24, 2006 Posted June 24, 2006 Why is it that people take men much more sriously than women? I've noticed this too. i think it has to do more with the fact that the niece is the child of the husband's sister, so he is their true family, not an in-law like the wife (no matter how much they may like her). my soon-to-be in-laws and i get a long very well, but i, as well, would certainly be hesitant to approach them about a serious problem involving my husband's family without him on my side. he is, after all, the only reason i even have any ties with them whatsoever. i think gender has very little to do with it in this case.
Guest Posted June 24, 2006 Posted June 24, 2006 i think it has to do more with the fact that the niece is the child of the husband's sister, so he is their true family, not an in-law like the wife (no matter how much they may like her). my soon-to-be in-laws and i get a long very well, but i, as well, would certainly be hesitant to approach them about a serious problem involving my husband's family without him on my side. he is, after all, the only reason i even have any ties with them whatsoever. i think gender has very little to do with it in this case. You are right in this case, poster. We are unmarried (I mention this in the original thread, 'I think this is neglect') so the family views me as sort of an outsider. They are very kind to me in general, but I am still not seen the same way as my SO. I am so glad he is backing me up on this issue....
Guest Posted June 26, 2006 Posted June 26, 2006 please let us know what happens. I will. I am curious to see what transpires as well. SO just sent an email to his sister ( a very loooooong one) telling her how concerned we are and the reasons for our concern. He explained why we'd stepped away from the situation for a period of time (i.e. we didn't feel listened to, didn't feel that our suggestions were respected) and why we're stepping back in (this current condition is disturbing and unacceptable) We are waiting for her response.
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