Violet87 Posted June 24, 2006 Posted June 24, 2006 Hello everyone. I am here to update on my situation. I am the guest from a while back. For the previous story here's the old thread http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t90856/ My ex has just recently contacted me a couple of days ago after going over three weeks without contact. My ex happened to text me a couple of days ago. He asked how I was doing and was I still mad at him. I admitted that I was a little mad with him but nonetheless was happy that he was doing well. He asked why was I mad at him, when he thought everything was cool the last time we spoke three weeks ago. I told him while I accepted his apology, it still didn't change what he did. He said that I was supposed to let go of things if I had supposedly forgiven him. I told him, forgiving doesn't neccessary mean forgetting. He was the only guy I was seeing while we were talking and that I had turned down guys to be with him. He went on to say that there were times he wanted to be with me, but wondered what if I did something wrong in the relationship and was worried that somehow I might screw up. He went on to say that he loves sex and b/c I'm still a virgin that's gonna be a problem. I didn't get it. I told him that I figured such and asked was he only interested in me for sex and did he think I would be so easy to run over b/c most people at my college thought all freshmen would be easy to sleep with. He never answered back. I was hurt, but for some reason not suprised. I texted him saying that from his lack of response, I finally got my answer from him. The next day I got another mesage from him. He explained the reason it took him a while to comment was b/c he had "fell asleep" and then went on to say that he didn't just want me for sex at all. He said that I deserve better, he's a dog and that for some reason all the girls he has been with get hurt by him somehow. I don't buy his pity story and I'm not impressed. I can't believe I thought he was different from other guys and thought that he was a genuine guy. I feel stupid that I didn't realize all this before. Such a loser. B/c I'm not sleeping around with everyone and prefer to have some emotional connection, he didn't want that. Any comments or words of advice...I would be so grateful.
daphne Posted June 24, 2006 Posted June 24, 2006 Violet, I think you already know all of the answers. You respect yourself and he has admitted that he's not that great ofa guy in relationships. Listen to him very carefully. He's telling you the truth. He wasn't as into you as you would have liked and you can do better. When a guy really likes you, it's not that difficult to figure it out. They may slip later on, but it's easy to spot the guys that are crazy about you. He does sound like a big loser. There are better fish in the sea than this one. Leave him out there.
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