Guest Posted June 24, 2006 Posted June 24, 2006 Hi everyone, I'm new writing here, but have been reading the threads for a couple of weeks. In December I met a great guy, we laugh alot, see each other constantly, and totally enjoy all of the physical aspects of our relationship. In fact that has never been so good for me! We enjoy hiking with the dog, and doing all alot of the same things! We are already in the "I love you" stage. The problem is---he is 48 and I'm 31. I love him dearly now, but----I am concerned about the age difference. Does anyone have any ideas? This is not a problem now, but will it be? I want children, and he does also--but--the age does difference worries me. Am I right to be concerned? Is there anyone out there where this big of an age difference works out? Any thoughts will help...... Thanks!
Tony T Posted June 24, 2006 Posted June 24, 2006 There is absolutely nothing at all wrong with your dating situation if you are comfortable with it. However, when he's 90, you will be 73 and probably way too old for him. (ha!)
paige367 Posted June 24, 2006 Posted June 24, 2006 Does he take good care of himself? If yes, then don't worry. Older men know better how to treat a woman and are more patient. I dated a guy who was 46 when I was 31 and it was one of the best dating experiences of my life. We even managed to break up without too much pain and distress. Annnndddd, it was the very best sex of my whole life before or after. Hmmmm wonder what he's up to these days.
MarieD Posted June 24, 2006 Posted June 24, 2006 The problem is---he is 48 and I'm 31. I love him dearly now, but----I am concerned about the age difference.quote] Hello you say that the problem is that he's 48 & u r 31. Honestly I don't see that being a problem at all. If you love him & he loves you, then age doesn't matter. You both have to be ok with it though. I was in an age gap relationship end of last year. I was 33 & my OM was 54. We were 21 years apart. I however, did worry about the age gap in the beginning. However as our love grew stronger for each other, that worry lessened. Don't let a number stop u! If u love him then go for it! Just discuss kids etc. Make sure he is willing to have kids. I was in this relationship for 3 years. If u need help or have any other questions, let me know, I'll be more than happy to help u out, any way i can. I once was in your shoes & know exactly what thoughts are going through your head.
Curmudgeon Posted June 24, 2006 Posted June 24, 2006 If he wants children at age 48 I think he may have a screw loose. Supposing it takes roughly two years to have one, he'll be almost 70 before the child graduates from high school. Your relative ages aren't necessarily problematic but children certainly could be. I was 42 when my last was born and she just graduated from high school this month. I'll be retired before she finishes college. It's something both of you should think long and hard about.
misslady7 Posted June 25, 2006 Posted June 25, 2006 Well I don't think there is anything wrong with dating an older man, just as long you and him are happy together that's all that matters. So don't worry about it, do what makes you happy and obviously that means with him right? So keep doing your thing girl . Good Luck I wish you two the very best.
Recommended Posts