donpepot Posted June 23, 2006 Posted June 23, 2006 As many of us know, when a woman is friends with a guy, most likely he is/was romantically interested in her. We also know that the longer a guy is friends with a woman, the deeper he sinks into the "friend zone". Believe it or not, sometimes an actual friendship develops between the two, and it will never be anything more. Along comes you. You attract her to you and begin dating her immediately. But you find out that she has these guy friends. Some of them have been friends for years. Are these guys a threat to your relationship? Should you tell her to get rid of her guy friends? Would you want to get rid of your female friends because she's jealous? I think we have the answer here: Of course not! At least be fair. The guy friends shouldn't be an issue. After all, she rejected them years ago. Also, if you get all pissy because of some guy she's been friends with for 10 years, you're showing insecurity. However, just because they're friends, it doesn't mean you can just sit back and relax. There always exists the small possibility (please note *small*) that something may change between the two of them. I've always used the "She'll make her choice" state of mind. Basically, she shows through her actions who she wants to be with. She can do the following without me taking action: - Talking to some random guy - Talking to some guy friend - Occasionally go out for coffee with guy friend These are actually quite harmless in themselves. But if she does the following, there's trouble: - She goes out with him a lot - She goes to do things with him that *couples* do - She starts to act distant toward you - She turns down plans with you to spend time with this "friend" - She makes new guy friends These are actions that show you're not the most important guy in her life anymore. The relationship's already over if she's doing any of the above. In summary, read her actions and you'll know what's going on. She'll her make her choice
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