hotgurl Posted June 23, 2006 Posted June 23, 2006 So I have been having these vivid gut wrenching nightmares. They are all about my BF cheating on me or leaving me for another woman. They are so real that I wake up and can feel the emotins from the dream. I wonder why I am having them we are in a good place right now. No fight, good sex, great compay. Is it because I can't accept happiness, it is because I am a little ok a lot bothered by the fact that we are not married and he is very slow about it. Or is it my underlying trust issues with men. I don't know it sucks and I have never had these dreams before. We've been together 5 years. Last night in the dream he wanted an open relationship and I was so mad I was hitting him and pulling his hair I would never physically hurt him ever and have never wanted too.
catgirl1927 Posted June 23, 2006 Posted June 23, 2006 I have those too. I think they are manifestations of my own fears and insecurities about being lied to, cheated on and left. In my opinion, these dreams probably have nothing at all to do with him or with your relationship. Therapy for you might help with them. But the thing is, I also have dreams that giant spiders are attacking me, or that an alligator is pulling me into the water. I have dreams that I fly, dreams that someone sneaks into the house and attacks me, and dreams that I am swimming with dolphins. I don't think there are really any giant spiders, I avoid alligators... they are just dreams. Things that scare us, things that we worry about, stuff like that.
Author hotgurl Posted June 23, 2006 Author Posted June 23, 2006 I know they are unfounded but they are so vivid. I know I have trust issues and have been cheated on befor so a part of me is always afraid like I am not enough.
HokeyReligions Posted June 24, 2006 Posted June 24, 2006 When things are going good I have my worst nightmares - probably because I've had so much trauma and drama in my life that I'm waiting for the shoe to drop and that comes out in nightmares. Maybe you are that way too. The better it is the more we fear to lose it because we know in reality that nothing stays the same.
Art_Critic Posted June 24, 2006 Posted June 24, 2006 I get nightmares if I eat dinner real late or close to bedtime
Bogun Posted June 24, 2006 Posted June 24, 2006 Or is it my underlying trust issues with men. Almost certainly. I know I have trust issues and have been cheated on befor so a part of me is always afraid like I am not enough. You already knew the answer hotgurl. If you've been together for 5 years, then you must be more than enough for your bf.
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