sunnie23 Posted June 22, 2006 Posted June 22, 2006 1st relationship - we met, he fell for me hard, one i reciprocated the feelings, he backed off. at the six month mark he returned to an extremely heavy school load and we barely saw each other. broke up six months later. 2nd relationship - we met, he fell for me hard, one i reciprocated the feelings, he backed off. at the six month mark he returned to an extremely heavy school load and we barely saw each other. broke up two months later. present relationship - we met, he fell for me hard, one i reciprocated the feelings, he backed off. now we are at the six month mark and he has an extremely heavy work load and we barely see each other (weekends, usually twice a week). have a terrible feeling that the break up is impending. why do i keep ending up in the same pattern???
ronnieromance Posted June 22, 2006 Posted June 22, 2006 You're supposed to be learning something that you, apparantly are'nt. -R-
Author sunnie23 Posted June 22, 2006 Author Posted June 22, 2006 that is what i thought, so with this one i went into therapy to sort out past issues, tried to be more understanding of his busy schedule, etc......i just cant figure out what i am supposed to be learning.
BenJammin Posted June 22, 2006 Posted June 22, 2006 stop dating people in school with heavy workloads? buta heavy workload doesn't usually keep a guy from dating a girl he's really into, unless you're dating the most disciplined, career-driven guys ever, or maybe bill gates. or only date for 5 months at a time?
Author sunnie23 Posted June 22, 2006 Author Posted June 22, 2006 funny. i'm reading "he's just not that into you" now. great book! i guess what i need to learn is to not give these guys excuses. the current one works from 6 am -7 pm, goes to the gym after then to bed. we spend the weekend together, but thats not enough for me at this point. i think i am going to break it off, there's been other things that have been bothering me about him. i dont want this to end but at this point i dont see any other alternative. if he was into me, he'd make the time to see me.
BenJammin Posted June 22, 2006 Posted June 22, 2006 if he was into me, he'd make the time to see me. then that's what you need to do, don't bother getting involved with someone who only has certain seasons he can maintain a relationshop in.
ashnicole Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 You're going through the same patterns, expecting a different result each time. Maybe get a hold of someone that isn't dealing with so much schooling? Someone that is on the same level as you?
blind_otter Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 You're probably attracted to a certain type of man. Or certain circumstances. And you allow yourself to fall into a pattern by not analyzing the similar qualities between these three relationships and attempting to either avoid or confront the issues you've repeatedly had problems with.
Author sunnie23 Posted June 30, 2006 Author Posted June 30, 2006 you know something funny, i just went through all my love shack posts for my last bf, and they were almost identicle to the ones i post now about my current guy. there was even one about how strange it was that my two relationships were so similar. i'm wondering if i just have problems dealing with the end of the honeymoon phase. you're right blindotter, i am attracted to the same type of guy, i love a man who has their own life and lives it regardless of whether or not they have a relatioship. i love men who are active and social and work hard, which unfortunately doesn't leave much time for a relationship. i'm just wondering if its possible for this current relationship to last, given the fact that both of the others were so similar and both ended at the same time. (8 month mark - which will be in a month for us).
luckystarr1182 Posted June 30, 2006 Posted June 30, 2006 Don't make him a priority when he's only making you an option.
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