Smung Posted June 22, 2006 Posted June 22, 2006 Well, my ex came over last night to help me make some product for a business I am starting. Long story short she wanted me to sign some paper basically having me hand over alot of stuff I bought in order to keep another piece of equipment (THAT SHE GAVE ME). I was thinking WTF?? Anyway, I decided at that moment to make my own demand. I suggested reconsiliation. My terms were simple. We go to counceling, work on our communication, and live apart for 3 months and at the end of the three months if we don't reconnect. we would call it quits. She left telling me she would make her choice and let me know. Well, I am leaving on a trip today, so I stopped by her house last night and she was charming as normal. But she said that she loved me but did not feel romance any more. In other words she just wanted to be "Friends" if you see my previous posts you'll know the story (http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t90920/. I left saying that I would not contact her again and if she ever changed her mind, she knew where I lived. I guess the bottom line is that the other person needs to be willing to work on the relationship and YOU need to determine if it's worth going after based on that. I believe in time we could have regained that spark but I would have gone through alot of emotional termoil and prevented me from moving on. Someone tell me I'm doing the write thing in having no more contact with her!! I feel I have now tried everything and will not beg!! oh yeah, she kept telling me the breakup was because of the little things. Cleaning, not putting the towels up etc... She said I was the caring, loving, etc... you know "I'm the Nice Guy". I guess I now feel that NICE GUY = Girl loses romance easy and starts thinking of you as a friend. I have learned alot and will be changing my Nice Guy image!!
fabulousgal Posted June 22, 2006 Posted June 22, 2006 Good for you for laying it on the line. At least you know where you stand. It takes 2 to make a relationship work, and if she's not feeling it, guess what it is her loss. Wanna know why, bc your a nice guy! I am tired of all the guys on here thinking "nice guys finish last". Bc you don't. Don't get me wrong, don't smother a girl or come on too strong, but nice guys rule! Games are for the birds, and no one wants an ungenuine a**h***. That's why I liked my ex so much, he was so incredibly nice. I felt like a princess when we were dating. We broke up bc of a cultural issue, and he realized his family wouldn't accept me. Since then, he's treated me like crap, probably to distance himself from me who knows- and it's made me hate him. So really, please listen when I tell you there is something to be proud of that your a nice man. I am a nice girl, and did a lot for my ex. I'll never change that even in my next relationship, its who I am. One day you will find someone that appreciates you for that. Oh and you are doing the right thing by going NC, it just stirs up too many emotions to do otherwise. If you do talk to her, don't bring up the relationship.
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