coldplayer Posted June 22, 2006 Posted June 22, 2006 Hello guys... . I'm a new member here. I have this one thing, that stucks in my heart, and cannot be forgotten. I don't know how to express it, but... I've just put it down in a poem-like form. Here it is... Have you ever felt the total pain of being ignored before When you love her with all of your heart, And you would just do anything for her, Just to make sure that she is happy You would travel the globe for her You would give up you everything to cure her You would give anything to surprise her You miss her day and night Yet when you meet her, You cannot seems to find a word to say How much you miss her Maybe there’s no word for it, you thought One day She ask for not to see you again Despite all the love you gave her She turned away And simply say that she has no feeling, no love for you at all Not because anything else, but simply its true…. For four years you wandered around The sense of missing, The way she smiles The way she giggle The way she laugh The way she had her launch with you The way she walks towards you when she sees you around the corner Every little thing Even the way she looks everyday, every minute when you look up at her How it warms and glow your heart Of how proud you are for being with such an incredible girl like her Oh by Lord, you would do anything for her Four years And the latest and first news you heard from her Is that she is so in love with a guy you do not know A guy came out of nowhere Just sms her for two days Yet she hope to be his wife, forever.... She always dream of him She can see nothing but him And she talks nothing but him Yet you keep e-mailing her Typed down your every word and sentence on your keyboard With the fullest sense How much you miss her all along How much your chest felt the pain when you remember her smile With all sense of love and dedication As if you are hoping The love you are pouring inside these words will somehow reach and touch her heart What are you going to do now? All I can say is, I'm so in love with her. I love her then, I love her now. Anyone who could give me some advise, or share a personal experience, or anything that suits, I thank you for all that. Seems like this is the only place I can let it all out. Please help me....anyone.....
Pink Amulet Posted June 22, 2006 Posted June 22, 2006 I need to be clear here... You were with her for four years? Or it ended four years ago?
Author coldplayer Posted June 22, 2006 Author Posted June 22, 2006 Oh, sorry. I forgot that part. It ended up four years ago. Its not that I haven't tried to move on, but, I can't. I know that nobody's the same. But every little things reminded me of her. We actually met at high school, but I don't know why, loving her is not a simple thing for me, even though it started at a period they called monkey love. Now that I'm 22. Sometimes I myself can't believe how long I've been missing her. Sorry anyway for the nag, hehe.
Pink Amulet Posted June 22, 2006 Posted June 22, 2006 Oh no! Four years is far too long. Do you still speak to her? Do you still see her? If not I think you should see a counsellor.
Bogun Posted June 22, 2006 Posted June 22, 2006 Yet you keep e-mailing her Typed down your every word and sentence on your keyboard If your still emailing her about loving her, then this is part of the reason that your stuck in the past. Not to mention, at best its making her feel sorry for you which will never impress a woman, and she may have lost all respect for you. Stop emailing her, and try and avoid hearing anything about her life. If you've been like this for 4 years, then it would probably help if you talked to someone professionally, as not being able to let it go after all this time suggests you have some other issues unrelated to your ex that you need to deal with.
Bogun Posted June 22, 2006 Posted June 22, 2006 God Pink, your posting everywhere and your post wasnt there before I started mine, so your making me look like I'm following you around LS.
Pink Amulet Posted June 22, 2006 Posted June 22, 2006 LOL- I know! I am an out of work journalist. I need to help, and I need to write! I also need to get a life too... obviously
Bogun Posted June 22, 2006 Posted June 22, 2006 Aww sorry to hear your still out of a job. Dont worry though, with your looks you'll get a job in no time (and im sure your journalistic skills are just as stunning)....well you would if I was the employer anyway.
Diver012 Posted June 22, 2006 Posted June 22, 2006 You shouldnt keep doing this to yourself. It is way past time you let this go. There are so many other possibilities out there for you. Think of it this way.... In the 4 years you have been in pain over your Ex, how many other relationship could you have had? How many more wonderful women could have been in your life by now? How many women found you attractive and you were so pre-occupied with an ex, that you failed to notice, or couldnt truely commit to another relationship because your focus was off? If you are having this much trouble letting go, I think you should go see a counselor. What you are doing to yourself is not healthy.
Pink Amulet Posted June 22, 2006 Posted June 22, 2006 I think it is important we establish she is no longer a presence in his life... P.S thanks Bogun... I think
Walk Posted June 22, 2006 Posted June 22, 2006 Four years.... I still love the man I last saw 4 years ago... But not in quite the way you describe. I love who he was. I love how he made me feel then. I love how caring and giving he was then. I love the memories I have of our time together. But I am not "In love" with him and haven't been for nearly 4 years. I miss that person I knew sometimes. Everyones so unique that I know I can never replace him in my life with someone else. But there are so many people in the world who are unique and special, and who deserve to be loved. The man I used to love isn't the person I fell in love with. 4 years changes a person incredibly, and those things that made that love possible are no longer there. We both changed and grew and lived our own lives after we broke up. Even though he may look the same, and have the same mannerisms and way of talking, he's not the same person I knew and loved so long ago. And I'm not the exact same person he fell in love with. What I'm trying to say is, I know we can never replace someone in our lives. She is special to you and always will be. Love the memories, love the time the two of you shared together, love who she was when you knew her so well... But don't waste your life waiting for her return. You can't replace the person she was, but there are people in this world that share those things you used to love about this girl. People who you will love with all your heart, just waiting for you to heal enough to see them. Someone who will make you feel alive, and whole, and a better man for knowing them... but you can't see them because you're caught in the memory of what you used to have. You live in the past and let your own life die in front of you.
Brittanyjean06 Posted June 22, 2006 Posted June 22, 2006 Previous post above = perfect advice, and completly true. When you said " It's not that I haven't tried to let go, I just can't "( similar words) I understand that. I'm sorry that you have been mourning over her for four years, sometimes It feels like the pain will never go away and never end. I've been in mourning" for a almost a year now, and sometimes it feels like only yesterday this all happend, So sometimes all time does is remind you of what you lost. I have heard of some healing in 10 years, so It's not really that crazy that you still miss her..Honestly. It does take another person for you to truely feel completly over your ex, and no not a rebound..just new feelings a new love, something you didn't expect, and it will happen to you. Now four years is some what of enough time for the pain to definitly subside, so in your case I'm sure you can go out and have fun and just live your life.. right? You really do need to let go, and if its too hard than just go with the flow of your life, pray and hope that some new girl will take all that pain away. Your young, like me ( I'm 18 younger) and you just gotta try harder in too letting go. She is not thinking about you and what your up to. Oh and please stop emailing her, it will only push her away, and if she hasn't came back yet( in four years) trust me she won't. I'm sure you've heard all the advice in the book and obviously it hasn't helped much, But im guessing she was your first love.. and yes were all different, but now is the time to atleast try to let go.
Author coldplayer Posted June 23, 2006 Author Posted June 23, 2006 Dear Pink, Bogun, Walk and Brittany.... I thank you all of you for those great advices you all ahd given me. You guys are great! . Its amazing how finally I've found a nice place to get advice. I've seen counsellors actually, but I hate them. They told me advices that are 100% true, but useless. Its just like the story of two guys who were on a hot balloon, not knowing where they are right now. Looking down, they saw a man, and they would like to know which town they are in. "Sir! Where are we right now?" The man answered "Oh you're 100 feet above the air". And just for the record, yes I'm still e-mailing her, but she was the one who started it, not me. And no, I do not e-mail her about loving her, just advices from the bottom of my heart about life that she asked me. Like I wrote before, I just hoping those words will somehow reach her heart. They say true love is sacrifice. Well, maybe I'm in true love, but the most likely is that I'm a fool, hehe. She wasn't my first love though. I had one before, but had to leave her unwillingly, because of my parents. And so, I do find your advices helpful. Maybe I should pray for a better girl, for a more beautiful girl than she was, as she was the most prettiest girl I've ever met. Thats ok though. The world is wide open. I'll move on now. Thank you again guys! .
Author coldplayer Posted June 23, 2006 Author Posted June 23, 2006 Dear Pink, Bogun, Walk and Brittany.... I thank you all of you for those great advices you all ahd given me. You guys are great! . Its amazing how finally I've found a nice place to get advice. I've seen counsellors actually, but I hate them. They told me advices that are 100% true, but useless. Its just like the story of two guys who were on a hot balloon, not knowing where they are right now. Looking down, they saw a man, and they would like to know which town they are in. "Sir! Where are we right now?" The man answered "Oh you're 100 feet above the air". And just for the record, yes I'm still e-mailing her, but she was the one who started it, not me. And no, I do not e-mail her about loving her, just advices from the bottom of my heart about life that she asked me. Like I wrote before, I just hoping those words will somehow reach her heart. They say true love is sacrifice. Well, maybe I'm in true love, but the most likely is that I'm a fool, hehe. She wasn't my first love though. I had one before, but had to leave her unwillingly, because of my parents. And so, I do find your advices helpful. Maybe I should pray for a better girl, for a more beautiful girl than she was, as she was the most prettiest girl I've ever met. Thats ok though. The world is wide open. I'll move on now. Thank you again guys! .
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