allina Posted June 22, 2006 Posted June 22, 2006 Why does it seem like for so many couples parting and clubbing ends up in cheating?! Can't people, even people in their twenties enjoy going out AND remain faithful? It's a little depressing to see, I refuse to believe that being drunk is any sort of excuse.
Bullgator Posted June 22, 2006 Posted June 22, 2006 Western society has become so narcissistic -- so "me first". Faithfulness has taken a back seat to us getting what *we* need. But it shouldn't come as any surprise. As C.S. Lewis said, we make the gelding and bid him be fruitful. We mock patriotism and are shocked to find traitors in our midst...
Guest Posted June 22, 2006 Posted June 22, 2006 I am not a big partier but my bf loves it on occasion. He can go out and drink until 4 am and not cheat. I found a good one. And if a man is really in love, he wont throw it away on some girl at a party. So, in the end, not all men cheat. Just the bad ones. And not all women cheat either!
Pyro Posted June 22, 2006 Posted June 22, 2006 Why does it seem like for so many couples parting and clubbing ends up in cheating?! Can't people, even people in their twenties enjoy going out AND remain faithful? It's a little depressing to see, I refuse to believe that being drunk is any sort of excuse. I find it funny when people try and use drinking as an excuse for cheating. Get use to the depression because cheating is all around and I don't see it slowing down. I wouldn't go as far as calling it the norm but it is definitely around. Just stick to your values and morals. Thats all that you can do.
rkman Posted June 22, 2006 Posted June 22, 2006 Why does it seem like for so many couples parting and clubbing ends up in cheating?! Can't people, even people in their twenties enjoy going out AND remain faithful? It's a little depressing to see, I refuse to believe that being drunk is any sort of excuse. Lack of values. Lack of respect. Lack of acknowledgement of the need for communication and quality time. People simply don't respect anything anymore. Their word is meaningless to them. Why do you think we have people saying, oh well I won't pay my loan on time no biggie, or oh well I guess we need a divorce, or oh well I guess we just aren't meant for each other. It's because nobody values commitment or the contracts we make with other people.
Pink Amulet Posted June 22, 2006 Posted June 22, 2006 I am a dancer, I dance three times a week. On Saturday night my dance girls and I go out to various nightclubs and just dance! I love the environment, minus the sleazy guys and the alcohol. (if there was an alternative- I'd be there) I was in a relationship for five years, I was not unfaithful once. I managed to go out to clubs every weekend and have no desire to be unfaithful. Just thought I would throw that in
Author allina Posted June 23, 2006 Author Posted June 23, 2006 Awww, some of you guys are great people I go out a lot, and I don't cheat, I did once at 17 but I consider myself a faithful person. Recently I've been going out even more, especially with my best girlfriend friend of 10 years, I consider her a wonderful person but she cheats on her bf. It makes me really angry and uncomfortable to be aware of it, and she almost laughs it off.
catgirl1927 Posted June 23, 2006 Posted June 23, 2006 And if a man is really in love, he wont throw it away on some girl at a party. So, in the end, not all men cheat. Just the bad ones. And not all women cheat either! Just quoting because it's so true. Don't go by what you read on this site. I think 95% of what's on here is just penthouse stories anyway. Don't let anyone ever tell you men don't love drama! Just look at the guys on this site for evidence.
Pink Amulet Posted June 23, 2006 Posted June 23, 2006 Awww, some of you guys are great people I go out a lot, and I don't cheat, I did once at 17 but I consider myself a faithful person. Recently I've been going out even more, especially with my best girlfriend friend of 10 years, I consider her a wonderful person but she cheats on her bf. It makes me really angry and uncomfortable to be aware of it, and she almost laughs it off. Allina, I know someone like that too. You don't quite know what to say to them. I mean it isn't your place to say anything reall, give your views without stepping on toes and move on. Obviously you could shouldn't tell her boyfriend, but the temptation does arise. It is a horrible situation for a person of high morals like yourself to be put in.
rkman Posted June 23, 2006 Posted June 23, 2006 Allina, I know someone like that too. You don't quite know what to say to them. I mean it isn't your place to say anything reall, give your views without stepping on toes and move on. Obviously you could shouldn't tell her boyfriend, but the temptation does arise. It is a horrible situation for a person of high morals like yourself to be put in. You tell them straight up. It's wrong and that's all there is to it. Don't threaten them, just tell them what oyu think. I have a friend who goes out wiht us a lot. Every night he goes out, he picks up the chicks, and in my opinion pushes it a little too far. My definition of cheating is a bit more strict though. Anyway, I took him aside one day and just told him that if he wanted to act liek that, then he shoudn't be dragging his girl along behind the scenes.
starlet Posted June 23, 2006 Posted June 23, 2006 well, i love to go clubbing and dancing, but i love my boyfriend, too. i mean, maybe i'm just not a cheater, or am happy in the relationship or something, but i can absolutely go out and dance and have a good time, and deal with boys that hit on me, and still go home to my bf at the end of the night. I dont' think it's the place that's the problem, i think it's just that people cheat more nowadays.
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