kellyp1 Posted June 22, 2006 Posted June 22, 2006 How do you give someone the space to miss you when they are doing contract work for you? I have to communicate with a guy because he is working on a project for me but I want him to miss me and not be so available. Thoughts?
Walk Posted June 22, 2006 Posted June 22, 2006 How do you give someone the space to miss you when they are doing contract work for you? I have to communicate with a guy because he is working on a project for me but I want him to miss me and not be so available. Thoughts? It'd be easier if you could create physical distance, but you could still do it if you see him all the time. Basically, you have to enjoy your life without him in it. So even though he may be doing contract work for you, if you're walking around like you're on cloud nine and it obviously has nothing to do with him, then he's going to see you are happy with out him. People are attracted to happy confident people. If you're life doesn't center on him, even for the small amount of time you do have to see him, then he might start to miss that attention. Otherwise, you could set it up so you aren't around while he's there. I'm not sure I would advise this though. People will behave very strangely when it comes to broken hearts and wounded ego's. Or you could have a friend, or family, come over while he's there. Something to take your mind off the fact that he's there. Pulls you away from him, and refocuses your attention somewhere else. I think it's the attitude more than anything else. You have to really believe it though. Most people are good at spotting fakeness. But it might be worth the effort of forcing yourself to be in a good mood, and enjoy life for a while. It might start out fake but turn into reality if you try hard enough.
Pink Amulet Posted June 22, 2006 Posted June 22, 2006 Was he your partner? Are you still in a relationship? I am unclear with the situation...
Author kellyp1 Posted June 22, 2006 Author Posted June 22, 2006 Well, we sort of dated but decided to slow things down and either slowly slip into a relationship or slowly slip into being friends. There is attraction there, mutual respect and we have told each other we like each other. The thing is, I think all the contact it making it go to friendship first and I want to try to lean the other way. I think if I am not always there when he wants me to be, he will at least experience missing me sometimes. I agree with Walk that having confidence and enjoying life is the biggest attraction of all. It's just hard to show that sometimes when you like someone. Other people see it, but then that one person only sees that you like them and need them around.
Pink Amulet Posted June 22, 2006 Posted June 22, 2006 Missing someone in the initial stages is next to impossible. You need to know and love someone before missing them can have an affect.
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