Nedved28 Posted June 22, 2006 Posted June 22, 2006 Hello all!! I guess i need some advice.I broke up with my ex gf of 2 years about six months ago. She basically told me she did'nt love me anymore and as i'm sure a lot of people know that was quite hard to hear!! I was naturally was very upset and told her that i needed a clean break to clear my head and would prefare if we did'nt have anymore contact!!(we live in different cities so the chance of meeting each other are small)! She got upset and told me she still wanted me in her life and did'nt wanna lose me. I guess deep down i felt the same and did'nt wanna lose her either and of course deep down hoped we'd get back together so being the soft hearted idiot i am at times i agreed!! I guess it was a big mistake as its just made it more difficult to get over her!! We chat about once a week on the phone and to her its just friends now and she's happy with that but to me its more as i find myself still thinking about our relationship and how good it was and still keeping an element of hope that we might get back together while knowing deep down she dose'nt love me anymore! I even find myself hating her and getting angry if she dose'nt contact me when she says she would!! I d'ont want these feelings anymore... I know i should just end it but its easier said than done!! I want to just forget about her and move on but i'd miss not having her in my life even though its hurting me. When she talks about other guys or when i think about her being with other guys i get jealous!! I never show it but deep down its eating away at me!! She's off to NYC tomorrow for 2 weeks and i guess she'l be with some guys and having fun and i'l be stuck at home wondering what she's up to and whom she's with!! Those thoughts hurt!! I might sound selfish here and a very jealous type but normally i'm not like this!! She'l prob expect me to call her tomorrow before she leaves but i'm hoping i won't!! I d'onmt know if thats the right thing or a spiteful thing to do? Maybe i should use her going there for 2 weeks as my chance to break from her? But i gotta get her out of my mind and move on.....
Diver012 Posted June 22, 2006 Posted June 22, 2006 I would tell her how you feel. Explain that you are still having feelings for her and that it isn't fair for either of you to continue to pretend to be friends when one of you wants so much more than that. You know what you gotta do. You will want to change your mind just to hear her voice. She will be hurt by your decision, just as you were hurt by hers. Its time to move on now. I would Let her go...
RealBroken Posted June 22, 2006 Posted June 22, 2006 Shes keeping you as a friend "just in case" She made this clear from the start...... I dont wanna lose you for good..... because you said you were gone. Break all contact off and let her know you're doing it, that u cant exist to her anymore. She may accept it,.... or u may get a pleasant surprise. Who knows. Lets see if she can accept life without the opportunity of you being around. Girls like to think thety have saftey bases, people they can fall back on. Thats you right now, leacve her alone in the open. See what happens. If nothuing happens, at least you can get on with your life eventually
Author Nedved28 Posted June 22, 2006 Author Posted June 22, 2006 Yes your both right and i know what i gotta do!! its been 6 months since we broke up and i know everybody has a differnet recovery period but i d'ont seem to be getting any better!! Still those same insecure jealous feelings that i never had when we we together. Its just not easy to erase somebody out of your life. I have noticed there is more of an arrogance about her now that she never had before. I get the impression sometimes she's enjoying knowing i still have feelings for her. If only i had of listened to my instint the first time and just broke all contact...
Author Nedved28 Posted June 22, 2006 Author Posted June 22, 2006 I know i'l be okay but i just gotta get her out of my life!! Well at least out of my life for a while anyway!! Maybe we will end up friends!! who knows? But i d'ont like having these jealous, bitter feelings i have towards her and need a clean break!! Anyone else reading here ever been in a similar position?
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