933KJL Posted June 21, 2006 Posted June 21, 2006 OK, my story in a nutshell. 43 divorced almost 6 years. XW cheated on me, I was willing to try and work through it, she was not, I moved forward, filed for divorce, sped it thru the system and have been a hell of a lot happier ever since--a bit poorer but happier. XW remarries about a year after our divorce and the current hubby is (now this is my opinion) a major flake, but hey he makes her happy I guess and he is nice enough to the kids. We share custody of the kids 50-50 one week on one week off and it is a good arrangement for all. We communicate a lot and get along pretty well. OK, today, my son is playing in a baseball game and he was doing a paper route for a friend and he asked me if I in turn would do it for him. I said sure. He told me to pick up the papers at his mom's house--no biggie. ANyhow, she is home from work early and asks if we can talk and I am like "oh s*** what now", she says it is not working? I ask what the job--figuring she may have been laid off since she was home at 230pm. She just said "life". I said that I was sorry that she felt that way and she leaned over and tried to kiss me and grab me--YUCK! I pulled back and asked what that was all about and she said that she had made a mess of her life and was not happy with any of it. I said I am sorry again, and left. I mean WTF. There is less than zero attraction to her from my end. And I have never noticed any attraction to me on her part since we divorced. But all of a sudden with her hubby out of town for the week, she is feeling unhappy about life and tries to come onto me? Run Forrest Run! Not looking for any advice--none needed (see line above) but more of a rant. EEEEW she tried to kiss me!
TUDOR Posted June 21, 2006 Posted June 21, 2006 Wow, as a divorcee myself I can only imagine how awkard that must have been!
Art_Critic Posted June 21, 2006 Posted June 21, 2006 Since you're not looking for advice then all I can offer is my condolences.. Kinda gives you the power..
hotgurl Posted June 21, 2006 Posted June 21, 2006 Don't you find it ironic that you were once married to her and now it's ewww she tried to kiss me. Life is so weird. Maybe she finally realizing her mistake. It only took her 6 years huh!
Art_Critic Posted June 21, 2006 Posted June 21, 2006 Did you get your ExW cootie shot ? I got mine at the health dept.. 20.00 every time I'm around my ExW I get the feeling that one day I'll get cornered like you.. she still gives me hugs when I say goodbye to my stepdaughter.. hahahahahahahaha.... hugs.. I used to bang her and now she settles for hugs.. hahahahaha
hotgurl Posted June 21, 2006 Posted June 21, 2006 Did you get your ExW cootie shot ? I got mine at the health dept.. 20.00 every time I'm around my ExW I get the feeling that one day I'll get cornered like you.. she still gives me hugs when I say goodbye to my stepdaughter.. hahahahahahahaha.... hugs.. I used to bang her and now she settles for hugs.. hahahahaha She just doesn't appreciate Mr. Wiggles like I do.
alphamale Posted June 21, 2006 Posted June 21, 2006 i have no sexual feelings or attraction to my ex-wife anymore. after i divorced her there was no feelings left anymore....and i was much happier with her gone. once in a while i'll see a pic of her and i'll cringe inside thinking WTF did I ever see in her?!?
Art_Critic Posted June 21, 2006 Posted June 21, 2006 She just doesn't appreciate Mr. Wiggles like I do. thanks HG.. or I should say the Mr Wiggles thanks you
Bullgator Posted June 21, 2006 Posted June 21, 2006 Sounds like she was ready to cheat on the current husband with the ex. You just saved yourself a lot of drama.
Trimmer Posted June 21, 2006 Posted June 21, 2006 Sounds like she was ready to cheat on the current husband with the ex Yeah, boy that really sticks out to me, too. It's not just the attempted hookup with the ex, but she was ready to do the infidelity thing again, too... Wow. I guess you're not too surprised that she would find that things didn't work out after all, and I guess I wouldn't be too surprised that she would go ahead and repeat the behavior patterns she has demonstrated in the past. If you ever wonder whether "the way things worked out 6 years ago" was really for the best (for you) or not, this should help put that question to bed, eh? You put it well: EEEEW...
michelangelo Posted June 21, 2006 Posted June 21, 2006 Did you at least say? "Um, I'm sorry, I really have to go do my paper route."
Art_Critic Posted June 21, 2006 Posted June 21, 2006 Something tells me that she was all emotional.. not getting along with the hubby and feeling that she made a mistake in your marriage and she was overwhelmed with feelings because you both were close at once and you were there.. I'll bet she thinks she made a mistake trying to kiss you.. Boy.. talk about being in the wrong place at the wrong time
Trimmer Posted June 21, 2006 Posted June 21, 2006 "Um, I'm sorry, I really have to go do my paper route." ROFLMAO!!!! ... and you could throw a "... Mrs. Jones" (whatever her last name is now) on the end of it to make it even a little bit more bizarre and creepy... Perfect!
Art_Critic Posted June 21, 2006 Posted June 21, 2006 Okay.. after thinking about this while cutting the grass I had just thought that this is how she deals with a failing amrriage.. find comfort elsewhere.. cheat.. Maybe she chose you because you are comfortable or it would make some of the guilt that she feels from screwing up her first marriage go away.. In any case I'll bet you think twice the next time she corners you in a room.. always makes sure there is adoor to your back I guess then a divorce is not to far away in her future.. or another affair
whichwayisup Posted June 21, 2006 Posted June 21, 2006 Wow. I'm sorry that happened to you! She probably thought you'd take the bait and let her fall into your arms. Hate to say this, but I'm sure a part of her always hoped that you'd take her back IF things didn't work out with her recent hubby. Little did she know... She's ruined a well oiled relationship between you two. And now there has to be a "talk". I'm sure she will want to discuss this with you.............. Sidenote here, Crest is the best! Then use antibacterial mouth wash........
Author 933KJL Posted June 22, 2006 Author Posted June 22, 2006 Well I was her second hubby--not by cheating though. And this current hubby is not the guy she cheated with on me either, but it did wierd me out so. ALPHA--I think the EXACT thing--WTF did I see in her? There have been no hints or clues from me or her that this may have been coming. I expected a "can you buy the kids shoes" sob story, but I was floored. So bizarre. Even more so because a-she is married and b-she knows I am seeing someone and c-that I had to get back home after the paper route to the kids at home. A very crazy afternoon for sure!
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