starter_70 Posted June 21, 2006 Posted June 21, 2006 Hey people whats up? I have this really big problem and maybe you guys can finnaly solve it for me. I have this thing that when i see a really hot girl i say to myself, "your never going to meet her or talk to her," but at luck has it i almost always some wierd way meet them. Now i have no problem with that its that they always just end up being my friends. To put it to you short i have a lot of hot friends that dont really like me but they always want to hang around with me. For some reason or other i always end up in the friend zone. I have no problem talking to girls at all, im a very confident guy when it comes to that, but for some wierd reason these really hot girls talk to me but they always want to be friends. I tried several times to make moves on them but that only makes the whole i just want to be friends thing worst. Im fed up with this situation because its just really sucks that i have these really hot friends that just want to be that, "friends." They tell me that i have a nice personality and that im really funny and that they really have a fun time with me but it can never go beyond that. Is there something wrong with me, im not gay or anything i love women from the top or there head to the bottom of there shoes. To me there is nothing more beautifull on this earth than women. Can anybody help me solve this problem? And please be very frank and give it to me straight.
Bullgator Posted June 21, 2006 Posted June 21, 2006 Hey, I was President and CEO of the friend zone for quite some time. I was attracted to them, but they weren't attracted to me. Sometimes they were looking for somebody taller. Sometimes they were looking for some other kind of personality in a bf. I don't recall doing anything specific to break the pattern, but as I got older I was able to find more girls who actually wanted a relationship with me. Just don't give up !!
scrybe74 Posted June 22, 2006 Posted June 22, 2006 #1) STOP being their friend. A guy only needs 1 or 2 really good female friends. The rest should be potential mates or hook ups. Since you have your fill of female friends the next time it happens tell her " Friends? Sorry...I like you but I've got tons of friends already. I was hoping for something different with you. I gotta go now but hey....listen...if you change your mind then give me a call sometime."...and then ...walk...away. Don't call her again. #2) Prevent the conversation in step #1 from ever happening! Listen....girls ALWAYS say that they want someone funny....but funny guys aren't who they ever hook up with. Or rather....that's not the main reason they hooked up with a guy I should say. It's more of a bonus. Make 'em laugh.....sure but make your interest in them obvious up front. If you are her ear to listen to her stories about her problems with men, the shoulder to cry on about a guy she loves.....BIG RED FLAG. You think she'll see how kind and tender you are for being there for her and then wake up in love with you? That only happens in the movies. Of course talk her and let her talk about herself and express interest (if you are interested) but keep the topic on her or preferably you AND her. Don't beat around the bush and don't try 'backdoor' tactics like being 'friendly' and then a week later acting romantically interested in her. It doesn't work, it's sneaky and shows no backbone. #3 Now that you have an army of hot female friends......enlist them for you cause! Get them to help you out. Get honest feed back on your appearance, approach, etc. Find out from them why exactly they never thought of you that way. Explain to them upfront that its so you can better your chances at finding a girl that you like. You MAY discover that one of those friends may get a little jealous or realize that she actually likes you...but don't hold your breath because that's not the point of the exercise. The point is to get valid, honest feedback from a failed attempt. If a friend changes her mind about you that's just a bonus. Where else can you get a hot girl that you desire to sit down and help you get another hot girl? You have a treasure trove of help right under you nose. Better yet....maybe one of them can go with you to a party or something and play your 'wingman'. Sometimes it works. Other women will definitely notice you if you arrive with a beautiful woman on your arm but it's not clear if you're taken or not.... I hope this helps! I've been there man! I know how it feels. I'll never go back!!! Never!!!......sorry...didn't mean to get so emotional. LOL!
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