justdontknow_1021 Posted June 21, 2006 Posted June 21, 2006 ok i want to first off say that i am very glad to have found this site.... i have sort of been in nc for the past 3 months and lately it is jut killing me..... you see mm w found out that he had been txting me and she started asking questions so he said we had to cool it... i have heard from several times since she found out but nothing recently..... i am just really having a hard time lately i want to talk to him i want to see him and i don't know why all of a sudden i am feeling this way..... i am just wondering do they ever come back like after a cooling off period once the w isn't so suspicious anymore??? we have went for months and not talked before so that kind of makes me feel better and i know that he is very busy in the summer months as i am to... but i have really been thinking about txting him or calling him on his cell... i am just looking for some advice maybe what has happen to some of you in this situation??? thank you for your support
yesmaybe Posted June 21, 2006 Posted June 21, 2006 of course you miss the drama, the passion. And no one wants to think that they've been "forgotten." That could be why you have this sudden urge to contact him again. I really recommend you not. You've gone this far without contacting him - to even have the itsy-bitsiest contact is like going back to level 0. Unfair, but that's just how the system seems to be set up. Also, another reason why NC is best - men often lose interest when women pursue. It's biology. Would you rather be a prize, or an easy catch? Up to you.
RealityCheck Posted June 21, 2006 Posted June 21, 2006 Chances are he will come back, ONLY if you let him.
whichwayisup Posted June 21, 2006 Posted June 21, 2006 I agree with RC. And right now you're in control! This is much healthier for you long term. It may hurt right now but if you stay in NC and go on with your life, keep busy and be with your friends and family, you'll just naturally detach emotionally from him more and more. Hopefully then IF he contacts you, you can have the strength and self respect to tell him it's over and to fix his marriage..And not to contact you again.
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