movinon05 Posted June 23, 2006 Posted June 23, 2006 My exMM never cried. I'm sure that makes it much harder to see a man cry and thus rip your heart out watching that. Then again, my exMM was usually the one to NC without a word to let me know that's what he was doing. I doubt that he cried though. When I would end it, he would go down on his knees and beg, plead and promise me the moon. Maybe this should tell me something.
Author UnknowingOW Posted June 23, 2006 Author Posted June 23, 2006 Good Morning. Today I will stick to my guns. No response from me..complete NC. He's already pinged me with good morning, busy day, try and talk later...love ya. The odd part was, he didn't call me by his nickname for me....he used my name. He hasn't done in years, but over the last 3-days he's used my name instead of the nickname. This leads me to believe he's trying to distance himself as well...a good thing in my book. Now it's my turn to quit obsessing about this whole mess, my feeling, wants, and fears.
RealityCheck Posted June 23, 2006 Posted June 23, 2006 My exMM never cried. I'm sure that makes it much harder to see a man cry and thus rip your heart out watching that. Then again, my exMM was usually the one to NC without a word to let me know that's what he was doing. I doubt that he cried though. When I would end it, he would go down on his knees and beg, plead and promise me the moon. Maybe this should tell me something. *SHOCKED*!!! I can't believe this came from you! Honestly after all of what you two shared and the time invested, I am truly shocked!
RealityCheck Posted June 23, 2006 Posted June 23, 2006 Good Morning. Today I will stick to my guns. No response from me..complete NC. He's already pinged me with good morning, busy day, try and talk later...love ya. The odd part was, he didn't call me by his nickname for me....he used my name. He hasn't done in years, but over the last 3-days he's used my name instead of the nickname. This leads me to believe he's trying to distance himself as well...a good thing in my book. Now it's my turn to quit obsessing about this whole mess, my feeling, wants, and fears. I know how difficult this can be! I got emails every freakin day by the MM when I was NC for 5 months. Some subject lines caught my attention and I would open them, most I couldn't because I didn't want it to play on my psych. Then of course, when they show up a your door step that even throws a real curve ball! Complete melt down!!! Good luck today. One day at a time is all you can do.
movinon05 Posted June 23, 2006 Posted June 23, 2006 *SHOCKED*!!! I can't believe this came from you! Honestly after all of what you two shared and the time invested, I am truly shocked! Yeah, but he's either just not a crier or he's very good at concealing his emotional pain. I mean we've talked about the pain, but he just never cried. He did have a mild heart attack! I'm sure I've gotten the blame for that in some way shape or form. But there were too many other factors involved where he would be susceptible to that.
RealityCheck Posted June 23, 2006 Posted June 23, 2006 Yeah, but he's either just not a crier or he's very good at concealing his emotional pain. I mean we've talked about the pain, but he just never cried. He did have a mild heart attack! I'm sure I've gotten the blame for that in some way shape or form. But there were too many other factors involved where he would be susceptible to that. Crap MO being the OW, I'm sure you would get blamed for your MM's "broken leg" had it happened.....lol I can just hear it! *laughing*
Iwanttohope Posted June 23, 2006 Posted June 23, 2006 He did have a mild heart attack! I'm sure I've gotten the blame for that in some way shape or form. But there were too many other factors involved where he would be susceptible to that. I got blamed for high blood pressure and chronic sinus infections--seriously!! The high blood pressure went through the roof after the last NC was set in motion. Apparently the sinus infections were because I had some hand in weakening his immunity:lmao: I really don't mean any disrespect, but is that not the dumbest thing you've ever heard? I mean, come on~~we are given WAAAAAY more power than any one person deserves or has.
Guest Posted June 23, 2006 Posted June 23, 2006 it sucks, big time! But keep up the good work and it does get easier. am in my 2nd week of NC now (respecting it via the work email, but still checking the private mail 'just in case' - pretty sad). glad MM has stuck to it too (but also sad!) it is like the A is such a big part of your life and thoughts, then to not have it leaves a big void. but keeping busy, working, diversion therapy!!! and if you break it, its back to square one all over again, like a break up ground hog day!!!!! i did this for about 3 months of on again/off again - frustrating and a bit of a head f***!!!!!! at least NC gives you a chance to try focus on yourself and heal from within dont give up!
RealityCheck Posted June 23, 2006 Posted June 23, 2006 I got blamed for high blood pressure and chronic sinus infections--seriously!! The high blood pressure went through the roof after the last NC was set in motion. Apparently the sinus infections were because I had some hand in weakening his immunity:lmao: I really don't mean any disrespect, but is that not the dumbest thing you've ever heard? I mean, come on~~we are given WAAAAAY more power than any one person deserves or has. OMG!!! I was going to mention so much as an "ear infection" *on the floor*......lol:laugh:
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