bigmess Posted June 21, 2006 Posted June 21, 2006 Okay, so I am dating this new guy, and he is so confusing. We met through Myspace, and went out for drinks and played pool, it was fun, we got drunk, had sex...my bad on the first night, but he was just so sexy! Anyway, I went into all of this just looking for a casual hook up since I am so not over my ex yet. So te first meeting was the end of may. He set me texts "morning pretty" "hi sexy" cute things like that, wanted to see me often, so we hung out a couple other times, once during the day went to a park and just hung out. So then we had tentative plans to meet up a couple days later, and all day, I dont hear from him. Called him like 3 times on two phone lines, dont hear from him till the next day. So Im like ok this guy wants to play games, fine...So then he comes over a couple days later and I am talking about a booty call for my roommate, and I jokingly comment haha, maybe if he was hot I'd do him, but that is my humor, so anyway. A couple nights later I am out with my friends, get wasted, dont hear my phone ring 3 times at 245 in the morning, its him, leaving texts like "I guess its akward for you to answer your phone" anD " I thought you were different but I guess i had the wrong impression of you" weird s***. So since then I clarified that even if it was its not his business, and he had no right to talk to me like that. So whatever then I rarely hear from him, he calls me every couple of days, I dont contact him, I always wait for him to contact me and because he rarely does, I am usually busy, he never wants to plan things in advanced, apparantly his work schedule is too volatile, he hasnt taken me out since that first night, nor does he ever attempt to make plans, but when we are together its so nice, and he really seems to really like speding time with me, its just when we arent that i get all these weird mixed signals, i dont know, maybe I am just not used to the whole dating thing, but I think I deserve to be courted and wined and dined, if thats the relationship he wants, and I have told him I am happy with the booty call situation, but he said to me a couple weeks ago that he hasnt felt like this about someone in a long time... So I guess my question in how do you get a guy to court you, treat you like a princess, wine you and dine you? I think my problem is that I am such a laid back girl that guys dont think I want that stuff, because I am active and fun and can hang with the guys you know? So how do I let them know without coming straight out and asking for it, that yes, I like flowers, yes I like surprises, yes I like to be taken out, and swept away...?
Poboy Posted June 21, 2006 Posted June 21, 2006 well both of you have sent weird signals to each other and also he is interpreting and thinking too much. He isnt sure if you are intrested in him. Meet up and talk about what both of you are looking for from this whole thing .. im not sure if both of you are in a relationship at this point. Also the treat you like a princess, wine you and dine you? ... the attention giving part will only come if both of you are serious about the thing.
scrybe74 Posted June 21, 2006 Posted June 21, 2006 This is simple. You made it clear that you're okay with the booty call deal right? Then sit him down for a talk. Just lay it out. Tell him that as far as you're concerned he's just a booty call for you because that's how he's behaving and you're OKAY with that. But if he wants to be considered for a real relationship he needs to ACT that way. Making plans and then flaking don't make you want to consider him seriously. Not returning phone calls, etc. That s***'s okay for BC's but for the real deal he'll need to show you that he's interested. Then explain that you're okay with either approach so it's not like you're pressuring him...you're just letting him know how to approach you depending on what he wants. It's up to him to decide. In the meantime I would keep dating other people as well and see what happens.
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