Lollie72 Posted June 21, 2006 Posted June 21, 2006 before the divorce papers are signed, sealed and delivered....it's a moral connundrum..any thoughts?
riobikini Posted June 21, 2006 Posted June 21, 2006 Lollie, I'm aware of your present dilema with your husband by the information in your other thread. You're hurting, right now. And you feel confused, frustrated, and pressed to resolve something regarding your circumstances. I know you are looking at divorce as the only answer -and probably feel (given the complicated circumstances) that you have been driven to it, -but, if you are not completely certain that divorce is the answer (at least, for now) -then don't do it. Filing for divorce is just as serious as filing for a marriage license: each carries as much legal weight *getting in to* as they do *getting out of*, -not to mention the degree of eval that you must go through to reach the right decision in both cases. Take your time, -nothing should be rushed (likewise, nothing should be dragged out for long periods, once the decision has been made). You need to be *sure*. So take the time to be sure. This encouragement for you to take this last little window of opportunity to re-assess things is for *you* -not for him. Take care. -Rio
Author Lollie72 Posted June 21, 2006 Author Posted June 21, 2006 I'm out the door within 30 days and will file for sure. He's being aweful by not allowing me money/access to his paycheck, I haven't got a car, or money to rent a place. He's put me in the poor house because I won't go along with him moving haphazardly across the country for his job. I made the sacrafice to move and was a domestic engineer for almot 4 years, and one person who had a lawyer said that will work in my favor because he will have to pay me spousal-support. I'd move again if he we not impossible for me to be around for any length of time. I'd have moved for the truely healthier psycholgically guy...
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