First Internet dating experience..HAHAHA!

[Stunner]

Ok, this is friggin' hilarious. I was so excited...one of the men I picked out emailed me. Immediately offers me his phone number, email address and asks me for a 'lot more photos'.

 

I respond to his email...full of humor..despite what you guys read here I do have a quick wit and am a cordial person. I politley expressed to him that I didn't feel comfortable sending him pictures right away...that while modeling years ago I was burned so I wanted to hold off on that for now but gave him my email address. 'I'm sure he understands with us being strangers and all...'

 

He returns my email telling me I'm too uptight and dating on the internet is not a bad thing. HAHAHAHA! Gee, you think this might be a red flag???? NO wonder he's alone at 42!

 

Anyone else have experiences to share????

 

This was a crack up!

[j.carsey]

I don't know about this internet dating thing... until you see them in person. That's all I can suggest on that

[luvtoto]

Yep, Stunner, I've had a couple experiences. One quite recently, but I'll tell you the one that happened a year ago.

 

I was IM'd on a dating site from some guy I never talked to before.

 

I talked to him and sent a couple replies, but then I got a phone call.

 

So, I naturally took the call and abandoned the IM with him. (He was kinda weird anyways)

 

When I got back to the computer, he wrote me, "Why the f*ck would I wanna drive all the way to _____, to bang you if you won't even talk to me?"

 

Holy hell. I laughed my ass off! What a loser!

[Stunner]

Pfffft! That's hilarious. I thought it would be a good way to contact many people at once. I'm a Mom and run two businesses...I don't have access to a large pool of people and this seemed a good way to at least dip my toes in.

 

I am careful, though. I would probably email for a month before considering meeting anyone.

 

More stories?

[luvtoto]

Pfffft! That's hilarious. I thought it would be a good way to contact many people at once. I'm a Mom and run two businesses...I don't have access to a large pool of people and this seemed a good way to at least dip my toes in.

 

I am careful, though. I would probably email for a month before considering meeting anyone.

 

More stories?

Yea, you have to be careful. I met this guy about six weeks ago. He called me morning, noon, and night. We developed quite a friendship...then, it got weird fast!

 

Something about him wanting me to kiss his cat. I can't quite remember, it's all fuzzy now.

[j.carsey]

Something about him wanting me to kiss his cat. I can't quite remember, it's all fuzzy now.

 

Are you sure about that? It wasn't the other way around?

 

I have several male friends who meet lots of girls online. One of them is a genuinely nice, good looking guy and he met his girlfriend (now of several years) on some Asian chat room thing. He had a fetish for Asian girls.

 

The second guy I know is really a pervert, and probably a rapist, and he met a few girls too. The only experience I know about is one where he went pretty far to meet her in person but her (smart) gut instinct was to be a no-show, and he never heard from her again.

 

For any women chatting with a guy online, I'd suggest:

1) make sure he can chat about normal things, not just sex

2) draw it out to test his patience, again will see what he's there for

3) send him a tasteful photo (clothed), if he's going to ditch you find out early

4) DO NOT MEET HIM IN PRIVATE the first time in person. Bring a girlfriend

 

Lots of rape happens from this stuff

[Tim'sAngel]

OMG, I have so many funny stories about meeting men online!! keep in mind this was all several years ago when I was young, horny, and very stupid!!

 

Once I had a guy I'd been talking to for a month or so online and on the phone come to be with me on my 18 or 19 Bday (can't remember which) and he had to drive a long ways to see me. I unexpectedly got my period about an hour befor he was due, had no car, and no tampons!! I wasn't even excited about seeing him anymore, I just wanted to make an excuse for him to take me to the store to get tampons!! lol So he got there, totally expecting sex... and after awhile I finally admitted about getting my period. He got so mad he drove like an hour and a half to see me!! its ok tho, he had a very tiny weiner!!

[j.carsey]

I've always held out against the internet/phone ad dating. The idea just doesn't sit well with me... but thanks now you got me thinking about horny 19 year olds I could be hooking up with.

 

Sigh I guess I just really prefer meeting people in person. I've got this weird feeling computer addicted people are being sucked dry of their humanity and joy of life. Like now I know all the teenagers spend their time on MSN, myspace, flickr and all kinds of photo hookup / whatever sites.

 

I still call them amateurs. Back in my day we dialed up and chatted on IRC while 50 year old pedophiles kept trying to tempt us to meet up with them. The good old wild-west days of the internet... but a difference was, after chatting for maybe an hour on that expensive dialup we grabbed some drinks and then went outdoors to hang out all night

[Tim'sAngel]

 

My SO always talks about that, how they used to all chat at night, then meet up for parties. Sounded fun

 

Internet dating isn't for everyone. I've had alot of luck with it but I think its because I wanted luck with it. People have to want something bad enough and they will get it. I met my SO online. Works for some, not for others.

[Stunner]

I'm not so sure I'm comfortable with the internet thing either...but realistically, I only get out once a week. A different site I found today has some potential...or at least some different looking potential...better quality...as far as you can tell with a total stranger and a profile consisting of no more than 500 words. Ha!

 

J. Carsey, it's funny you mention 'tasteful' photos...the one I posted is of me in a turtleneck sweater from the neck up! Pfft.

 

I will follow my gut...I always have preferred to meet people in person too but with the kids out of school I only have one work day, which is a half day and one night out a week. I feel pretty trapped right now. What I wouldn't give to go back in time a couple of months to say yes to those almost daily requests for my company....

 

That jerkface that pulled a Houdini really got me revving for male company. Next time, though I'm waiting longer for sex.

 

*sigh* now I'm going to think of some freaky dud kissing fuzzy cats all night.......I really need to be more busy! LOL

[tanbark813]

I had one girl call me up and cancel literally as I was walking out the door to go meet her. She gave me some BS about her car breaking down.

 

I also learned to never meet a girl unless I get a pic first. One girl was EXTREMELY generous with her description of herself. I didn't have the heart to turn her down and send her home as soon as she arrived, so I told her all kinds of stories about my ex to make her not want to see me again.

[blue16]

I didn't know there were dating sites where people didn't show there picture. I thought the routine would be, as an example, if you do a search of the people in your area each person has a little thumbnail so you can get a glimpse of what they look like. Then if you click on their profile, you can look at more of their pics in detail. I don't really see how people even would consider meeting another person online (with the pretense of dating) if they haven't seen their pics.

[Outcast]

I saw a show where people had to go on dates with people they had not seen photos of, only talked to. They were pretty happy with their choices even not having seen people - in fact, thought it was a *very* good way to pick people.

We make assumptions based on what we see. Often those assumptions are dead wrong.

[alphamale]

Anyone else have experiences to share????

internet dating is a complete waste of time for most people.

[tanbark813]

I saw a show where people had to go on dates with people they had not seen photos of, only talked to. They were pretty happy with their choices even not having seen people - in fact, thought it was a *very* good way to pick people.

We make assumptions based on what we see. Often those assumptions are dead wrong.

 

Yeah, a show that people were selected for. I'm sure it didn't include some of the trolls you encounter in real life online dating.

[catgirl1927]

I know of people who have met their spouses online, and have a couple of friends who are using match and eharmony and meeting people that way. It's working out pretty well for them.

 

I think it depends on your intentions. Many people go online to hook up and have random sex, and therefore attract the crazies. It's just like meeting people in a bar. If you approach a girl sitting with her friends drinking, you are more likely to find a nice girl than if you pursue the one laying on the bar topless letting everyone do body shots off of her.

[basscatcher]

I'll open my little black book:::

 

Last summer I got into internet dating. I was new to the cities. Having a hard time meeting people. I hadn't started going out with my gf at work yet-which developed me into making friends with her aunt and now we party every weekend. Anyways. I wanted to meet people (mostly men) whom lived in the local area so I could maybe find someone to do things with over the summer. Like: Valley Fair, county fair, museums, hiking, fishing, dining, dancing, movies, etc.. I have three profiles out there. catholic website, and the two most popular- Y*h**.com and M*t*h.com

 

I met:

 

1st man- sent msgs about 2-3 weeks, exchanged numbers, called, then decieded to meet in a public place and I brought a gf. He was very nice, cute, about my height. It was a good meeting but short. He called me once a week for about 5 months then he went MIA. He never had time to meet up with me again but always talked about it. He worked fulltime for his friends security company and also purchased, remodeled homes with his brother.

 

2nd man-sent a few emails, exchanged numbers afte about 3 weeks, he was hot... hot ... hot.. we dated about 3-4 weeks. He was a country boy, raised in ND, we found familiarity between ourselves. We had a good connection. We enjoyed each others company. He was still dealing with his past relationship with the mother of his son and when feelings started to develope between us he backed off. He got cold feet. We still communicate from time to time. He admitted to me recently that when he starts to have feelings he gets cold feet and he runs as fast as the wind will blow him. He apoligized to me over and over. BUT he made it clear he still isn't ready for a serious relationship. Its been almost 4 years since he and his x broke up and he is still affected by it. What I wouldn't give to have him. YUMMMM>..He is a country worker in management in accounting department

 

3rd man-is my alpha male friend. (I've spoken of him in LS). he and a friend were doing experiments with the dating sight (kind of like LS AlphaMale did with bogus profiles to see reactions.) and he met me. We are still connected today a year later. I wish he would let his wall down and allow me in totally. He is independant, very smart, outgoing, really good looking, affectionate, caring in his own way, protective if need be, resourceful, etc etc. He has some issues but I can deal with them. He doens't want kids, doesn't want to be someone's step-father, he doesn't want to get married, he doesn't want a woman living in his home. He is loyal when involved with someone. He is cautious about people and very suspicious of people motives and intentions. O'well. I accept what I get. Mostly his sincere friendship. he is self employeed (I don't know exactly what. he is a mystery.)

 

4th man- OMG I about fell down when I met him. He was so damn hot. Damn, tall, built, handsome, flirty, he gave me undivided attention. was upfront with his thoughts, he was a charmer. that lasted 2 weeks with 3 actual dates and a night in his hottub. NO man has ever picked me up like a feather and carried me like he did. he ended what was started because he told me I was developing feelings for him faster then he was and he couldn't catch up with mine. WTF? Was I played?? :lmao: It was all good and I enjoyed the excitement and having eye candy on my arm.. A body like that was well worth it.. {sigh :bunny: } What I wouldn't do to lay down with him again. **yum yum yum, give me some of your butter peach cobbler*** He is self employeed as a successful cabinetmaker. Beautiful work, beautiful home, creative, talented.

 

I gave up after the 4th one. I learned fast that I can't deal with so many repeated disappoints to close together. I don't have thick enough skin to play this game. I was getting propositions all the time by potential dates and offers that were of all kinds. I chatted with some but didn't meet them. I would check my mail boxes daily and there would be anywhere from 10 to 30 emails from men.

 

There were too many guys coming to fast at me and I couldn't handle it. It was too much. I was overloaded and I had a hard time wrapping my head around the screening process and decieding who I wanted to meet and who I didn't..

 

I gave it all up.

 

Upon canceling my Y*h*o account my last contact was a guy whom I figured out 3 months later was a part of the Sweetheart Scamm. I actually had to report him to the Secret Service. He and I had even called each other. His story kept changing and he kept telling me if he told me the truth I wouldn't have given a chance. Truth was he claimed he lived here near me and then he told me he actually lives in London and was working in South Africa as a contractor. He eventually elaborated a story about needing help, money, his boss fired him left him in SA. etc. etc. It was a scheme. He did contact me after I told him I reported him. He told me he wasn't a scammer and that he was real with me. he told me i hurt his feelings and that he loved me.. :lmao:

 

I've been done with online dating since. YUCK.

 

I joined a local match service and met 2 guys--one being Charlie which I posted about in LS.

 

I'm still alone, lonely, and still don't have anyone to explore the city with.

[alphamale]

(kind of like LS AlphaMale did with bogus profiles to see reactions.)

that "bogus" profile I put up had like 1,200 hits last I checked. It still gets winks to this day from young, nubile and attractive young ladies in their 20's. The picture is of a hot male blond-blue eyed model with his shirt off and the text of the ad makes him come off fairly superfical and unintelligent.

[scrybe74]

Well. I did the internet dating thing for about two years after my marriage ended. It's not for the faint of heart I'll tell you that but in reality it's no different than dating in the 'real' world - better I would imagine. It has the same problems that come with regular dating except it's at a higher volume! More disappointments, more liars, more drama but more chances at having fun, meeting great people and falling in love.

 

You just have to learn to develop rules for yourself and set certain boundaries. You have to be very clear on what you are looking for and try not to deviate from that. You also need to take breaks because you can burn out fast.

 

So...I'll tell you three stories. The good, the bad and the ugly.

 

Ugly - I met this girl online through some site I can't even remember. We didn't exchange pictures (I was new to the internet dating) but we emailed and then talked for a couple of weeks. She described herself as habing an 'athletic build', attractive, active and fun. She was in her early 20's and I was 27/28 at the time. We hit it off and talked for hours during the second week. We set up a time to meet over the weekend. A few days before we met she started to get really sexual on the phone. This made me suspicious so I called her the day before our meeting and told her that I forgot that I had to go to an event that same day but I could meet with her for about 30 minutes then I had to go. I figured if she was as attractive as she claimed then I called pretend to cancel my plans and stay with her. If she wasn't then I had an out. We met at a parking lot in front of an icecream shop. She described herself and her vehicle on the phone so I would recognize her. I recognized her truck.....not her. What got out of that truck was a young woman between 250-300 lbs easily! She was freaking HUGE and horrendous. I wanted to turn and run. I'm 6 feet and weigh in about 180 - 185 lbs and was an athlete all during highschool so I stayed in pretty good shape. Standing next to her we looked like the number 10. It's not necessarily that she was big (i've met and dated beautiful and attractive large women before) it's just that she completely lied, was unattractive AND I wasn't looking to date a large woman. I didn't have the heart to cut and run so we had icecream, a short conversation and then I left as fast as possible mumbling something about getting to my brother in law's house. EWwwww! terrible!

 

The bad -

In the beginning I met a lot of girls who lied about their appearance. I finally got wise and demanded pictures before meeting. This helped but in somecases either the pictures were outdated or at an angle that didn't really tell the whole story.

 

The good -

I quit internet dating for 6 months or so. When I was ready for a real relationship again I posted an ad on a free site. I got 3 responses and chose a young woman who was a grad student at a college about 80 miles away. We emailed and chatted on the phone for about 2 weeks. We exchanged pictures and she was really cute! We met in person on a Saturday afternoon and it was as close to love at first sight as I've ever been. We meant to only have coffee for about an hour but we ended up spending the entire day and evening together. It was very late so I ended up staying overnight out her house with her and her roommates (I was on the couch). The next morning we had breakfast and spent the morning together before I went back home. We began dating and saw each other every weekend and fell deeply in love with each other. A year later we moved in together, got pregnant and 2 years later she gave birth to my baby girl (my second child her first). What worked for us is that both of us were upfront about what we wanted and who we were. Not everything was compatible but we learned to get along on those things over time but what was important was that we were made aware in the beginning so we knew what we were getting into.

[MWC_LifeBeginsAt40]

I had two lunch dates and went shopping with a guy, and he was already asking if he should remove his profile.

 

I called him that night and said "This just isn't for me." and he went on and on "I just don't understand..."

 

Then I ignored him most of the time on msn, and finally blocked him. I refer to him as "the stalker" even though I'm sure he is a nice fellow...if you like guys who are 45 going on 60. He was a great guy though...he told me so himself!

[allina]

I feel like the only person that has never met anyone online. I think it would be sort of fun and exciting, I don't get why it has all the negative connotations.

[luvtoto]

Last night, I was talking to a guy I met online.

 

He said that his X-wife had a bad accident.

 

I asked him what happened to her....

 

He said, "She fell on a penis."

 

I guess that's another way of saying you were cheated on.

[Lonestar]

I had one girl call me up and cancel literally as I was walking out the door to go meet her. She gave me some BS about her car breaking down.

 

 

Holy s***, tanbark! Were you the guy I was supposed to meet a couple weeks ago? I swear I did the exact same thing to a guy. He had acted somewhat retarded on the phone the last couple times we talked, and I knew it was going to be a nightmare, so I I told him my car wouldn't start because it was WAY too late to just cancel for other reasons :lmao:

 

Tanbark, if that was you, I'm sorry, bud.

 

Stunner, in my opinion, if you're going to put a profile on a dating site, you should be ready to send more photos. People need to know what you look like. I also think it's ridiculous to email back and forth for a week before you move to the next step. I exchange a couple emails, get on the phone, and if I still like them, meet. I don't want to waste time with anyone I'm not attracted to. A lot of people are like that.

[tanbark813]

Holy s***, tanbark! Were you the guy I was supposed to meet a couple weeks ago? I swear I did the exact same thing to a guy. He had acted somewhat retarded on the phone the last couple times we talked, and I knew it was going to be a nightmare, so I I told him my car wouldn't start because it was WAY too late to just cancel for other reasons :lmao:

 

Tanbark, if that was you, I'm sorry, bud.

 

No, that wasn't me. I know you wouldn't cancel on me.

 

We set up the date over email and had never spoken on the phone. I was supposed to meet her at a place in her town about 30 minutes from me. I was walking out the door and she called and said her car broke down at a friends house in another town that was also about 30 minutes away but in a different direction. I offered to drive out there instead and meet her at a restaurant in THAT town. She agreed and said she'd call me back with the details but I never heard back from her.

[allina]

I offered to drive out there instead and meet her at a restaurant in THAT town. She agreed and said she'd call me back with the details but I never heard back from her.

 

Ouch, thats freakin rude of her!