mullins Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 Hi, So i screwed up in the relationship 6 months ago by seeing another. Its clear now that i am in love with S (current girl) and she has told me over and over that she will not have a relationship with me, but that im unique and she couldnt bare to lose me as a friend. So i accept friendship as i love her but am told there is no way she will ever be an item with me. So we have romantic walks in the woods (as friends do?) and sit in the pub laughing and joking with each other. Here is where it got difficult for me, my x had met a new man but she still had feelings for me, so i chat to her even though i dont want her back (x gf not wife im talking about) she is having probs with her new man, so i help the best i can. In the meantime S wants to spend the night with me (as friends in bed) we are both adults she says even though she knows how i feel about her. Well at 1.30 am C called and S hit the roof and stormed out. I dont hear from her for 3 days and tonight she rings saying she wants us to carry on as we were, good friends, going out and making love and that there is NO way she is ready for a relationship after the way i treated her 6 months ago. I told her my heart wants to carry on as we were so at least i see and hold her, but my head tells me this is destroying me. I know she is jealous if i talk to anyone else and i believe she loves me so why is she behaving like this? should i walk away, is she using me for safe sex? why wont she accept i made a massive mistake and let us rebuild if she wants friends and to make love...i mean what is the difference between that and commiting to a relationship? This is the 2nd time she has told me this, last time i ignored her and got texts, calls and emails saying how much she missed her 'best friend' and how she had her 'needs' What should i do?
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