litfish Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 I have known for a while that I need NC. In fact, I listened to the no contact sermon that has been posted by kitten moon. And I totally agreed with it. I want to shake the dust off of my feet. I can't help but feel bad about being the dust that he is shaking off of his feet, though. It has been over a week since I have heard from him. Everytime he hasn't left a message, I feel bad. I just wish I could stop thinking about him and feeling badly about the fact that he isn't thinking about me. How do I quite longingly checking my voice mail and in-box?
KittenMoon Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 I have known for a while that I need NC. In fact, I listened to the no contact sermon that has been posted by kitten moon. And I totally agreed with it. I want to shake the dust off of my feet. I can't help but feel bad about being the dust that he is shaking off of his feet, though. It has been over a week since I have heard from him. Everytime he hasn't left a message, I feel bad. I just wish I could stop thinking about him and feeling badly about the fact that he isn't thinking about me. How do I quite longingly checking my voice mail and in-box? Wrong kitty- you are thinking of In Sync.
fabulousgal Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 I do the same thing. I blocked the IM, so I at least won't sit and wonder about that. I think you should think about this, if you do talk to him and its casual on his end- not telling you he misses you etc- won't it make you feel worse? That's what happened to me, so I went NC and told him to bug off. Distract yourself, talk to other friends and relatives on the phone. That helps me a lot, I call ppl and sit on the phone at night bc thats when I would talk to him. Eventually, you'll get tired of waiting for his number to show up.
Author litfish Posted June 21, 2006 Author Posted June 21, 2006 Thanks--that's pretty much what i have been doing. And getting onto this site also. I wish I were the type that could date someone else, but I can't when my heart still belongs to him. If I dated other people, I would just feel worse about the fact that it's not him I'm with. How do so many guys move on so quickly? Any guys out there want to provide me with some insight as to how getting involved with someone helps you get over the last person more quickly?
deepimpact Posted June 22, 2006 Posted June 22, 2006 Hi there, What makes you think guys move on so quickly? It has been more than a year since i broke up with a girl and still i feel the way you feel about dating. My weekend was ruined 3 weeks ago because of msn, i couldnt sleep for days... Check it out. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t90295/ There is a really great advice from dgiirl about dating there.
Pink Amulet Posted June 22, 2006 Posted June 22, 2006 Yeah, and on the opposite side of that, my female friend just ended her five year relationship only to start a new relationship a week later. This was a man she had not met previously. She now tells me she could marry this guy!! I on the other hand am wary of stepping in to the dating scene for the first time. I am worried, like you said, I will start thinking about him again because of it... People are different, I am content to just be alone for a while Fall back in love with myself so to speak. I will need sex soon though... maybe a purely physical relationship might work for you too?
Author litfish Posted June 23, 2006 Author Posted June 23, 2006 Hi there, What makes you think guys move on so quickly? It has been more than a year since i broke up with a girl and still i feel the way you feel about dating. My weekend was ruined 3 weeks ago because of msn, i couldnt sleep for days... Check it out. http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t90295/ There is a really great advice from dgiirl about dating there. Hey, deepimpact, You were right, that was pretty good advice that dgirl gave you. I just wonder sometimes if I am just allowing my ex too much power over me when I turn down guys that ask me out. I just don't feel like dating right now. I have tried, and aside from not feeling into it, I actually feel like it's not fair to the guys I go out with, either. Also, I guess I shouldn't have overgeneralized about men getting over women quickly. Basing my assumptions on the men in my life..just feeling a little frustrated when I wrote my last post. I'm sorry you've had such a bad time with your break-up. Best of luck to you.
Author litfish Posted June 23, 2006 Author Posted June 23, 2006 Yeah, and on the opposite side of that, my female friend just ended her five year relationship only to start a new relationship a week later. This was a man she had not met previously. She now tells me she could marry this guy!! I on the other hand am wary of stepping in to the dating scene for the first time. I am worried, like you said, I will start thinking about him again because of it... People are different, I am content to just be alone for a while Fall back in love with myself so to speak. I will need sex soon though... maybe a purely physical relationship might work for you too? Lovin' myself is about all the lovin' I've had in a couple of months. Yessss, the physical thing is part of the reason that I feel frustrated that I don't feel like dating. Maybe I can try it.
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