KittenMoon Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 I started therapy recently, but my therapist only sees patients during business hours. I need an excuse for my boss as to why I need to leave early one a week, or once every two weeks with regularity. I don't want to tell him about therapy, I have no kids or family to make excuses with, etc. We're close enough so that if I just say I have an appt or something I need to go to so frequently, it will raise suspicions I don't want to deal with. Any ideas?
kitten chick Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 You're allowed your privacy. If you say you have a doctor's appointment that should be enough. If you feel like you want an excuse you can make just about anything up. Why not try to make a lunchtime appointment so that you don't have to come up with any excuses?
Author KittenMoon Posted June 20, 2006 Author Posted June 20, 2006 You're allowed your privacy. If you say you have a doctor's appointment that should be enough. If you feel like you want an excuse you can make just about anything up. Why not try to make a lunchtime appointment so that you don't have to come up with any excuses? It's too far away to do a lunch appt. And it's not that I can't get away with saying "drs appt", it's just that if I am making regular appts at regular times, it's going to lead to questions I'd rather not answer. Unfortunately, my boss is rather straightforward.
kitten chick Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 I think you can say that it's personal and you'd rather not discuss it. Maybe you can say you're doing something like a stress managment class. Or if you feel you need an unrelated excuse though, I've been having a problem with my back and I'm at the chiropractor all the time. Eventually I'll be down to once a week or once every two weeks. It's a lie for you but it's a plausable excuse.
magichands Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 I started therapy recently, but my therapist only sees patients during business hours. I need an excuse for my boss as to why I need to leave early one a week, or once every two weeks with regularity. I don't want to tell him about therapy, I have no kids or family to make excuses with, etc. We're close enough so that if I just say I have an appt or something I need to go to so frequently, it will raise suspicions I don't want to deal with. Any ideas? Hmmm... maybe, if quizzed - and you don't like the idea that it's a matter of the mind - you could go with physical therapy? But then you might have to start walking a bit funny.
Art_Critic Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 You're allowed your privacy. I totally agree with this.. but if you are to missing work on a regular basis then the best way would be to explain why you are missing work.. He will wonder if you don't.. and if he thinks something like your looking for a job or your jacking off then it could hurt your job. I think an employees lunchtime is for those type of things.,. but on occasions they may have to miss work.. so be it.. but if I had an employee missing work on a regular basis I would pull them aside and ask them what is up. If you aren't missing any work and can do it on your lunch break then it is entirely your business. You don't have to go into any details.. you could say something like you are having a tough time adjusting to single life and need someone to talk to or you could say you're dealing with some personal issues and explain the nature is too personal to let him know.. Regardless you need to inform your boss what is up so he can make adjustments for you. He isn't allowed to leak any info about what he knows about your absense..
alphamale Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 get a note from your therapist that says you need time away from work for these appts. the note doesn't have to go into any detail of why. then tell your boss you'll put in extra hours if need be. problem solved. alpha
Author KittenMoon Posted June 20, 2006 Author Posted June 20, 2006 Taking the time off isn't an issue- half the guys blow out of here every Tues for freakin GOLF league. But I really really really really really really don't want to have to tell my boss I'm going to a therapist. I already can't stand how much people are worrying about me (which I've already discussed in therapy, ironically enough...) What's a condition or situation where one might need to regularly leave early every other week? Usually, I'm great coming up with this kinda stuff...
alphamale Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 What's a condition or situation where one might need to regularly leave early every other week? you just say you're getting some regular medical treatment for a while and leave it at that. no need to go into detail or whatnot. what's so hard aobut that?
Author KittenMoon Posted June 20, 2006 Author Posted June 20, 2006 you just say you're getting some regular medical treatment for a while and leave it at that. no need to go into detail or whatnot. what's so hard aobut that? Because I want to create a situation where there's no questions about what I'm NOT saying. I know it's my business, but it still makes me uncomfortable. I don't want to discuss this - I just a good lie to use.
Kittiecat Posted June 21, 2006 Posted June 21, 2006 There are some local adult education centers that have "enrichment classes" advertised in their course booklet that comes in the mail. You could use it to pick a "class" that sounds convincing that no one would question you about...a class that you would be interested in taking anyway, maybe writing? Tell them you're taking this class once/twice a week. I know the bosses where I work are extremely tolerant of school schedules. Good luck!
Art_Critic Posted June 21, 2006 Posted June 21, 2006 What's a condition or situation where one might need to regularly leave early every other week? Usually, I'm great coming up with this kinda stuff... Tell him that you go to visit your Mom or Grandma in a nursing home.. Lots of dental work that is going to take many visits Tell him you were arrested for drunk driving and you got sentenced to community service I think just telling him that you have some personal issues that you don't feel comfortable discussing is all he needs to know..
Outcast Posted June 21, 2006 Posted June 21, 2006 Everybody at my office is always headed off to chiropractors or physiotherapists.
Kittiecat Posted June 22, 2006 Posted June 22, 2006 Ya know...on second thought...you really should be able to tell your boss the truth (i.e. you have regular doctor's appointments for a medical condition). Bosses and HR departments in general are supposed to keep those sorts of things STRICTLY confidential. They've probably heard it all from their employees, anyway.
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