In love? Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 I dont want to make this too long so here is as short as I can get it. I met my now boyfriend through a friend on-line. He was and still is in the Marines. I didn't get to meet him before he left for Iraq because he was stationed across country and didn't get to come home before he left. For the 8 months he was in Iraq we exchanged pictures, emails, millions on letters and as many phone calls as possible. I got to know him and fell in love. He was perfect. He came home and my fear was that when I met him face to face that there wouldn't be that SPARK. I picked him up from the airport and sparks flew. He was just as perfect in person as he was over the phone. We started dating and things were great. He was home for a month and then had to go back to North Carolina where he is stationed. So now here is my problem...actually I have 2 of them... #1: When he is home things are great for the most part. We do fight but I feel that it might have something to do with the fact that we have such little time together - but then again shouldn't we be cherishing the time we have. IDK Then when he leaves I miss him for the initial couple days and then it fades - I go along with my life (which is extremely extremely busy I dont stop from 8-8) and it gets to the point that I feel a little inconvienced when he calls. Shouldn't I be cherishing our calls? And then it gets to the point that when I do have time to talk to him he kinda starts to annoy me and idk if its because I don't love this situation or I dont love him. I think that I do but when we are away from each other it kinda fades. Is that a common LDR thing. I get excited when I see him and fall all in love and stuff but shouldn't my love for him be strong enough to last thru out the time we are apart. #2: I use to be a sex maniac. In the beginning it was hot and heavy. For the month he was home I couldn't keep my hands off of him. My sex drive is GONE. When he comes home I feel like I HAVE to have sex with him. Shouldn't I want to have sex with him since I haven't had sex in so long? Another factor is he the first guy I have met that was more sex crazed then me and its kinda a turn off now. HELPPP!
paige367 Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 Sounds to me that this is an infatuation made more intense by the whole 'army man overseas' thing. It's a romantic situation to be sure. Maybe you should talk about taking a break and see what happens when you don't have to have any contact with him.
Guest Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 Sounds to me that this is an infatuation made more intense by the whole 'army man overseas' thing. It's a romantic situation to be sure. Maybe you should talk about taking a break and see what happens when you don't have to have any contact with him. We've tried that. We went to take a break and it didn't even last for a full 24 hrs. One night we decided to take a break... I cried and he said some things that got me kinda mad so I got off the phone and went to bed and he called me like 40 mins later freaking out. I have always been the type of person that I dont get devistated by a break up right away - it always takes a couple days to sink in... so especially right after it happens I am real tough and it makes the guy think I dont care... weird but thats just me. So anways I stayed tough, got off the phone, put it on silent and went to bed. I woke up the next morning, saw 15 missed calls and got ready for work. I dont have much time through out the day so I figured I would call him when I got out of work. He called me and text and we talked a little. He was really upset about the whole thing. When I got out of work we talked and he said a lot of things that made me feel better about US. I got all mushy inside and a teary eyed and we got back together. PS - Thank you for trying to help. I will take any advice I can get right now. I am really concerned. He is such a great guy and I just dont want to F*** this up nor do I wanna waste my time or his if this isn't right.
sagiterre Posted June 28, 2006 Posted June 28, 2006 I hav a feeling that itz infatuation too..I mean, sex is integral yeah, but it shudnt put u off and on like that..love can be sexless, and itz wonderful..yeah, the little time that u two spend together is indeed creatin clashes. so, i think that if u wanna b wid him for long, u hav to accept the fact that time is very limited in ur case. take the time to fondle in the memories, rather than sulk over he's nt wid u..gud luk:), cheers.
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