unexperienced Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 So I'm 16 years old, and I sadly must admit I do not have very much experience with women. However, theres a girl I like, and I'm almost completely sure she likes me back. I like hanging out with her a lot, and I've gone on a few dates with her a lot, but I'm not really sure that I want to ask her out. However, I would really like to hook up with her (and people are surprised when I've told them that we haven't already hooked up with her). I don't really want to sound like a jerk, but does anybody have any advice for getting her to hook up with me ? I think she may have some of the same lack of experience issues as I do, too.
j.carsey Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 If you have access to an older brother or other older guy friends you must go and ask them. Tell them you will buy them a ton of beer once you're old enough to buy it Not sure exactly what you mean by hook up. The easiest starting point is the kiss. Have you kissed her yet? All you do is some time you two are alone, and she is relaxed and in a good mood, you reach over and kiss her. If you're really worried about doing this out of the blue, then start by resting your hand on her leg or arm. Don't worry too much if she hesitates for the kiss, she may be nervous. But anyway this is how you start and everything gets easier after that.
j.carsey Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 Oh also a memorable quote from an old Mad TV sketch: Kissin' leads to humpin', like fartin' leads to poopin' !
Author unexperienced Posted June 20, 2006 Author Posted June 20, 2006 yah, I'm referring to at least kissing her (as a starting point) it doesn't seem that easy though...
j.carsey Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 You've really got to take the plunge man. Yes it is difficult when you start, that's why a lot of guys have to drink before they can do it. Have you been hugging her when you see her? That's a great way to at least break the physical contact barrier. If you're not sure how to lean in for that, watch other girls at school to see how they do it. Maybe think of it like a challenge you encounter in sports. You have to visualize yourself performing. So about how you would make your move. Picture it in your mind so that the action doesn't seem foreign to you. She'll be sitting beside you, on a couch or something. Get some physical contact going, start with the most innocent motion. Something like a friendly touch on the arm or leg is great. Easiest way to do that if you're uncomfortable is to start in a position where your hands are already close to her arm or leg, maybe resting on a cushion or the back of the couch. Or lightly rest your hand on her shoulder. The point really is to at least start touching her, because that's what's really going to tell her that you're going somewhere with this and she is almost certain to enjoy it. Plus it's very exciting and you want a girl to be excited around you If the touching thing seems OK then it's pretty easy to get a bit more serious with it, not just a light touch on the leg but rest your palm on her leg and keep it there for a bit. She'll probably get a bit nervous or flustered, but look her in her eyes and that's when you move in to kiss her. Even if she comes off as uncomfortable or nervous, I guarantee you it will excite her and if she likes you, she will like it when you touch and kiss her.
Author unexperienced Posted June 20, 2006 Author Posted June 20, 2006 thanks a bunch dude, next time I'm with her I'll give it a try
j.carsey Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 It really helps to see something and imitate it though. I would recommend checking out some chick flick type of things, maybe sex and the city. Or whatever sitcoms I dunno. Basically watch it and imitate it This is why older men always hook up with your classmates (lol they won't tel you about it but trust me some of them are dating 20, maybe 30 year olds). There is a technique to this
paige367 Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 Sweetest thread I've read in a while. Good to know there's some mentoring going on here. Remember she's probably nervous too. Be respectful and go for it.
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