Guest Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 So theres a girl I like, and I'm pretty sure she likes me back. I've gone on a few of what I would consider to be dates with her. The problem is I'm not sure if I want to be in a relationship with her, but I want to hook up with her (I don't really know how to say that without sounding like a jerk). I'm not really sure how to get her to hook up with me, as I don't have very much experience in that general area . Any suggestions though?
Outcast Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 I don't really know how to say that without sounding like a jerk Too late. If you want sex without emotion, rent a hooker. But wear a couple of condoms and pray you don't catch anything.
NightsInWhiteSatin Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 Too late. If you want sex without emotion, rent a hooker. But wear a couple of condoms and pray you don't catch anything. lmao, dont beat around the bush do ya
Buttaflyy Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 Too late. If you want sex without emotion, rent a hooker. But wear a couple of condoms and pray you don't catch anything. Wait a min Outcast. I started to say the same, but realistically there are plenty of women these days who don't want anything more from a man. Is she maybe that type of chick (if she is we couldn't call her a woman could we)?
Tim'sAngel Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 It is ok to want to be with someone physically, but only if it is known between the two of you are in agreeance. I don't necessarily suggest meanlingless sex with someone you don't see yourself staying with, but if your going to do it, at least make sure she knows your true intention. And be safe!!
ashnicole Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 I would talk to her about it... not letting her know what your intentions are, and sleeping with her, then treating her like nothing happened... I wouldn't say that guarantees a second go-around. Let her know what it is you want... who knows, she may be willing to do the same for you.
scrybe74 Posted June 20, 2006 Posted June 20, 2006 There is NOTHING wrong with a woman who wants to engage in a physical relationship with a man and nothing more. Why do some people make such a woman out to be a whore or compare her to a prostitute? It's ridiculous. Anyhoo....Be honest and upfront. Continue the courtship as you are going and when you feel like some sexual intimacy may be on the horizon or when the conversation about relationships come up let her know. When I wanted a similar situation with a woman at some point (2nd, 3rd date) we talked seriously about what we were both looking for in a relationship. At that moment I would let her know that I wasn't really interested in a serious relationship with anyone but I did like her and wanted to continue to spend time with her. Normally what happens is one of the following scenarios: She tells me upfront that she sorry but that's not of any interest to her and we amicably go our separate ways We go out on a few more dates until it settles in to her that I meant what I said and then it ends. She readily accepts my attitude and we began a fun and casual relationship (usually short term or until she finds someone for a real relationship) We decide to just be friends (no benefits) We go our separate ways and she calls me maybe a few days (or weeks) later and we begin a physical relationship. - - - - Most women I've dated didn't go for the physical only thing because that wasn't what they were looking for but there were no hard feelings. The women who went for it either didn't want a relationship at the time or needed/wanted physical intimacy until they met a guy that they wanted to begin a relationship with. So it can happen but you can't force it or try and manipulate them into it (unless you want to be THAT kind of a**h***). But you have to be willing to accept the fact that she probably isn't interested in that and be prepared to move on.
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